ADHD or sometimes parents fault?

Do you think every child who gets medication for adhd ,does really has this disorder or a lot of times is might be cause the parents just cant race there kids the right way or are to lazy to teach them and set rules?
I dont wanna affend anybody, its just that I am watching kids for years and some of the kids got diagnosed with it, but when I saw how the parents let them do whatever they want, do not explain things etc, it didnt surprise me that the kids were out of control!
Now I have a baby myself, and its just scary to me to have the thought to give your child medication so its quite.

I believe it is both over and under diagnosed. There is a pretty good share of the "lets not make Johnny unhappy" parents out there that let poor diet, caffeine and video games come it at too early of an age that THINK their child has ADHD. There is also a lot of hypoactive ADD kids out there that go undiagnosed and are just thought of as air-heads or scatter brains.

I agree with you. I think ADHD is extremely over-diagnosed. A lot of the children that I see on a day to day basis could be really well behaved children if their parents put a little more time and effort into disciplining them. I'm not discounting the idea of ADHD at all, I just think there is definitely some people who rush to think there is something wrong with their kids if they don't listen or behave like other kids. I think a childs behavior is a reflection on how the parents handle parenting their children. Now don't get me wrong, there are kids out there who really do have medical issues and who definitely need medication, I'm not against any of that. It just seems that if some parents did a better job of taking care of their children and showing them the correct way to behave, there might be less kids who need to be on these medications.

Wow, I wonder how many people will give me a thumbs down for this one! :o) I'm not trying to offend anyone who has a child that is ADD or ADHD, and I don't think all kids who have either of those were raised poorly at all. Like I said, there are just some situations I've seen personally where parenting might play into a childs behavior a little...

I think this is often misdiagnosed, doctorsd dont really wanna look in to things too much anymore.
I had a cousin that i'm sure would have been classed as ADD, but his parents changed his diet, wouldnt give him anything with perservitives in it as such - and he turned into a complete different kid

I agree with you--there is a BIG difference in the kids who really have it, and the kids who run wild through lack of discipline.
I have two nephres under 10 who were recently put on ADHD meds....I was SHOCKED when I saw them, they had been normal rambunctious, energetic boys (and I know--I raised 3 of them!!)....now they are like zombie Stepford children.

Their mother didn't have the way to cope, so she DRUGGED them! It breaks my heart.

I do think some parents use this as an excuse for bad behaviour sometimes. Since the term came about it is amazing just how many are 'diagnosed with this condition'.

I think your wrong
Doctors dont give you meds if you dont need them
I have ADD and i take meds for them
but my mom wasnt being lazy to teach me or anything
im just a slow learner
And ADHD has nothing to do with the fact of your parents not teaching you or being lazy the H stands for hyper so you need to get your facts correct
and YES you do affend me

and one way you can tell if you dont need the meds is that you get high off of them...so you should take another look at those kids im sure there not high

i do agree with the parents fault

but that's only part of it i am sure if the child really has ADHD and the parents take the time to work with the child, they could at least make a difference from early on and help the child learn to deal with the disability

my step son has ADHD
when i met him (age 5) i thought it was autism and made my guy send him to a psych. for evaluation..... we put him on medication and it didn't seem to make much difference
until we got custody and his mother moved 6 hours away.... the difference was almost immediate... he was in a structured stable environment and expected to act his age - he started doing better in school, getting along with his peers

his mother allowed him to act like he was 3 and so he never advanced mentally or physically - he would watch tv all day and wouldn't be able to get himself dressed or use a fork or pencil properly- he couldn't have a conversation with anybody because nobody ever actually talked to him about anything--- it was frightening- i often wonder what would have happened to this child if the judge gave the mother custody (he was going to until she got an attitude in court)

but i am sure that some children who have no strutcure are put on medication for the benefit of the parents and not the children.... parents just seem not to want to be bothered actually spending qualtiy time with their children

i think your wrong.....i'm a parent of a ADHD child.....god knows how i'm trying to race my child as a good citizen.....but still he got it.......i know as a child i used to have that but way back before theres no term for this problem but right now will all of the technology everything has a term.

thank god that your kid don't have it.......but as a parent PLEASE TRY NOT TO MISJUDGE OTHER PARENT......

I have seen a lot of parents NOT proper parenting only to later have their child get diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. So I do understand what you and some of the others here are saying.

I do realize that there are people/children with ADD and need the medication.

I know for a fact that ADHD is way over diagnosed. Most cases would have been stopped with proper discipline by the parents at a young age. Beat your kids it works. When i say beat i do not mean abuse but when they step out of line from ages 4 to 10 smack them not to hurt them but to show your not playing games. Stepping out line includes directly disobeying you, disrespecting you, lying ect. ect. and any other personal rules that you want to instill in your children. Make the ground rules explain them carefully to your child and let them know that you will not break or budge. Most of all love your kids. By no means am i saying ADHD is a non disease medication helps many kids that actually have a chemical imbalance. Im against medicating your kids so they shut up and go to bed, which tends to happen when your shrink likes to give out pills like they are breath mints.

I think it goes both ways. There are a lot of kids out there who genuinely have ADHD and need medication. Their parents set limits and enforce them, but the kids have a medical problem. There are many, many more, however, who do not enforce limits, allow thier children to run wild and when they can't control them anymore, they start asking for meds. I think (in my opinion) that there is an extreme over-prescription of ADHD meds, which makes it difficult for those who really need it.

Firstly I live in the UK and in america especially it's over diagnosed, but to avoid this our pedatricions are stricter with diagnosis. Which can cause problems, it took me ten years to get diagnosed in which my mum had to handle it even me being abusive and out of control sometimes which i feel bad about so no comments please i just couldn't control it. Therefore my meds were amazing and helped alot. My brother however is autistic and adhd and was diagnosed with severe above disorders and you can tell when either of us skip meds.
I agree some parents just stick them on meds and are irresponsible and these people make ADHD look false and cause parents such as mine who have children with these disorders to be frowned upon by society.