I'm confused about my ex..why is he messing with me?! he has mental disorders (OCD ADHD&depression)?

my ex boyfriend&i are both 19&go to different schools. we were together all through highschool, he cheated on me, was mentally abusive&physically abusive(not to the extreme).However, i stuck with him for 3+years.i was stupid and naive i know,but 4 some reason i was hooked.he went on antidepressants&spontaneously broke up w/ me only weeks after.That was a little over1yr ago.since weve been broken up we started dating again for a few month&he broke up w/me again-a few months ago he told me he still loves me&always will&that he'll never find anyone better-then he went back to ignoring me again.since then i have gotten another boyfriend who i really like&care about so much.he treats me like a princess&i couldnt as for a better guy-when my ex found out i was w/a new guy he emailed me telling me he had a dream about me&wondering how im doing-he called me&txted me multiple times but i never answered b/c i feel like he's trying to stop me from being happy

for a few months now he hasn't tried to contact me &seems happy. i havn't spoken to him or seen him, but i dont know why i still think about him every day. i do not want to be with him, but i think what i want more is for him 2 realize what he lost, but instead over the years all he's done is pushed me away only to bring me back over and over and over again.

my question is...do u think i should try to contact him, and FURTHERMORE...although he looks okay on the outside, this is a boy that has mental illnesses and is medicated---do u think he even cares that im with someone else or did he just email me in hopes to get me to think of him so that im not with someone else. Does he miss me at all and realize what hes lost...and will someone like him u think ever find someone better. sorry for all the questions im just really confused and i need some sort of closure to truly move on and stop worrying about him and just care about the new guy

Hi Suesammy, in making up your mind about your ex., I would advice you not to take his ADHD & other disorders into consideration. This is because your ex is a person with an attitude problem, and your life will really be a roller coaster ride if you stick with him.

I am not surprised that you still think about him once in a while because the two of you were together for so long. Twenty or thirty years down the line, thoughts of him may even crop up once in a while. That's human nature. We can't turn off memories the way we turn off the water tap.

Since he is such a negative force, I would say its best to stay away from him, and focus your attention on the good boyfriend that you have at present.

Always remember this - avoid negative people and hang out with positive ones. The positive influences you get will be of great benefit to you now and in the future. The negative ones will only bring misery.

Have a nice day Suesammy, and may you have a wonderful life.