My "love interest" hasn't had a job in 7 months. She has adhd and is obsessive compulsive. What would you do?

I love her but, her issues have a huge effect on her future. Some times I can't take it and feel like she is holding me back. She is very normal besides a handful of issues like her adhd, obsessive compulsive. She is taking medication but just started and I feel like she has a long way to go before she gets the right mix. She lives with me and is always around. Interfers with my life because she doesn't really have one of her own. i feel bad but, Im just not happy. If I show her the dorr she will have no where to go. No family or friends. I just wasn't ready for all this and get irritated often. If I break up with her I feel like it would be breaking up with a female gilbert grape or something. What do I do??

As strange as it sounds, before you take any action one way or the other, you might want to look for a caretaker's support group in your area and attend a few meetings. Essentially, in many ways, you are this girl's caretaker. This leaves you with the typical feelings of resentment, being trapped, and feeling guilty for feeling that way that many caretakers report feeling.

Meeting others who are in a similar position to you can give you a clearer idea of what all of your options are. You'll see that what you're feeling is completely normal, and if you do make the decision to break up with her in the end, you won't have to deal with the guilt of having to make that decision alone.

You sound like a very caring and loving person who got more than he bargained for or realized he was in for when he got into this situation. Regardless of how it ends, you've done more than many ever would, and that says a lot about the quality of your character.

You have to have the life you want. If you cared enough about this person, it's probable you wouldn't ask this question.

Sometimes we have to let others go, even if they are in the most dire of situations, because otherwise they may never get up from where they are, and bring you down with them, ruining your life, and causing all sorts of resentment in the future.

what women works nowadays anyway as long as she's still capable of having sex there'll always be a job for her, weather that means tickling your fancy or some bosses or even complete strangers thats how most other women hold down a job despite being totally incompetent.

tell her she has to get a job or you will leave her but dont be so mean about it maybe if she just gets a job you would feel better even if its part time. and after 90 days of working part time tell her she has to get full time or start looking for a job before she leaves the part time one. that way if shes working you would feel better about making her leave if you still wanted too. and since she has adhd you may want to go with her to find her a job the first few times, snagajob.com is a great website. even if its babysitting as long as shes getting out of the hous and talking to other people she may back off of you alittle

You sound like you're not really into her and want someone to justify what you want to hear - to leave her since you want a parter, not someone to keep around you. It's very sad, but you need to move on with your life, if you were REALLY prepared to live out life with her you wouldn't be so unsure with this decision. If you think she'll drag you down, you're going to have to decide if she is really the one for you. Your life is important however so is hers.

I think you should suck it up and stick it out if you love her.
That's love.