My daughter who has recently been diagnosis with ADHD,teacher is trying to retain her in the first grade?

Her grades improved after the doctor percrisbed her a medicine called Foilcn which is used to keep her focus, she is struggling with math I suggested that she be placed in the second grade and pulled out during the math class and placed in a remedial math class or even tested for special education class but they are telling me that there is nothing that I can do about it. But other teachers said that she can't be held back in the first grade only grades third, fifth, eight, and tenth can be held back. Is there any truth to that? I rather for her to be placed in a smaller classroom setting so that she can understand better than to repeat the first grade and she becomes bored and things get worse. Some children learn slower than others, I can accept that fact, what I can't accept is that they are telling me that I don't want to give here that label, but her teacher is willing to hold her back. What is the difference? I rather have her label with a learning disiability instead of behavior

The teacher's recommendation is not based on the fact that your child has ADHD. the recommendation is based on the fact that your child is not prepared academically to be successful in second grade. How your child views the retention will determine how effect this intervention will be. If you and your child view it as a second chance to "get it right", it can be a very effective. There is no rule as to what grades a child may be retained. However, research has shown that the earlier the better. You may consider a summer program, if available, then have your child's preparedness reassessed.

As a parent myself I would rather see my child held back now in the 1st grade when the early learning is most important than later in life when she has already started to have the problems and more set in her ways. Let her retake the 1st grade and have a better start on her learning than wait until the 5th when she will be more influenced by friends and such. I would just hate to tell my 3rd or 5th grade that she was being held back this year. As far as to which years they "hold" kids back in that would be specific to your school system.

Why do you want your child labelled rather than helped?

If I were you I would go with the teacher's advice. Give your daughter a chance to find the work easy and be the star of the class, rather than always struggling to keep up.

If she's only just been diagnosed and prescribed the medicine, she really hasn't had a chance to show what she can do. It's really unfair to label her with a learning disability, when the problem may be that she can't do the first grade work right now solely because the ADHD made it impossible for her to concentrate on it. Let her start first grade again with her medication, and see where she goes from there - and see if you can arrange for there to be a meeting after just a couple of weeks of next year. If she's obviously flying ahead and in the wrong grade, hopefully she could be moved up then.

I have never heard of being held back in certain grades only. I don't know what state you are in, would that make a difference?
It takes more than one teacher to hold a child back in a grade, that I do know. You need to have a meeting with her teacher, the school principal, a special education instructor and the district's school psychologist.
When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, (I knew for a long time something wasn't right, I just couldn't get anyone to listen), he was in the second grade, what we decided, (by we, I mean all the listed individuals above), since he was so far behind the other second grade students was to have him attend first grade classes half of the day, (math and reading). He wasn't officially held back a grade but he was able to catch up by learning the basics he missed out on while he wasn't on medication. There is no truth to "there is nothing you can do about it".
I had one heck of a fight with the school, but once they know they aren't going to be able to bully you for their convenience, they will work with you. Don't back down. You know your daughter better than anyone, you know her needs.
What you are suggesting in a no-brainer, besides, who is to say anyone is "slower"? Once everything clicks, she will soar. It's just a matter of finding the best way for her to understand.
I wish you the best of luck!

Ask to see the school system policy on retention. It will vary depending on state laws. Here in my state a student can be retained only ONCE in grades K-3.

Next step would be to contact the principal and ask for a meeting. Do this in writing with a copy to the teacher. Also, if you want her tested for special ed, request that in writing. There are federal guidelines that dictate how special education is handled and one is that a parent's request MUST be responded to within a certain timeframe. Some states do not consider ADHD a disability, but she might demonstrate a learning disability in the math area.

Finally, it is somewhat true that you "can do nothing" if the principal does retain your daughter. Most states have vested authority in school administrators to "grade and place." That means that yoru daughter can be retained despite your objections. If that happens, you could perhaps find a private school who would agree to promote her, leave her there for a year and then return to public school. You could also homeschool, but for many this just isn't an option.

The principal's decision most likely could be appealed to your local board of education, but in my many years in public education I've never seen a principal overruled on this issue. Generally the teacher has significant documentation to support his/her decision.

I know it is painful for a child to be retained, but try to step back and look at the situation as the school trying to make sure your daughter is successful from this point forward. She needs to have a a sufficient grasp of the first grade material to allow her to do well in coming years.

My niece "failed" kindergarten. She is now 30, a college graduate with a successful career, married to an attorney.

Whatever happens, your daughter obviously has a mom who is willing to fight for her, and that is a wonderful thing. Good luck.