Is this a genuine phobia or anxiety disorder? Any insight?

I'm trying to figure out why I am this way, or if there is no explanation, rather it is just a personality thing.
-I have been told that I hardly speak
-I have a strong fear of doing things wrong/poorly. I have to do it perfectly. I spend much longer than needed on tasks to make sure they are perfect.
-hard time making eye contact with some people
-I censor myself in every day conversation so that I can appeal to everyone's conversation style
-I feel like I am hardly ever myself around others
-If I don't think I can do it, I don't try
-I don't feel comfortable talking about personal things to ANYONE
-I am not motivated for success, I am often motivated so I don't fail
-I ALWAYS have cared to the point of anxiety about what everyone thinks of me.
-I don't want to appear negatively at all (example, in elementary school I was afraid of walking into class late. Instead I would sit outside and hyperventilate until someone had to escort me to my class, which embarassed me to tears)

-so you dont ramble like an idiot, you wait til you have something important to say, thats ok, people should maybe take lessons from you,
-as far as doing things wrong, that is how we learn is through trying, peolple with the most failures also have the most success, Babe Ruth has more strikes than anyone but also has the most home runs, people that never fail are doing nothing, do your best and that is all you can do
-practice making eye contact by role playing by your self and looking into your eyes in a mirror, what you have to say is important and so are you
-as far as not feeling like yourself around others, I remember being that way and wondering who am I, it is a teen thing, we are turning into who we will be, and you lose that self doubt with time
-if you think you cant, you are right, same goes for thinking you can, if you can dream it, and believe it, you will most definately achieve it,read the story "the little train that could"
-at least you are motivated, that alone leads to a success, even success from failure is a success
-and you know what the say about opinions, who cares what they think, it is what you think that matters, in a few years most of these people you wont even remember their names
-you can do it, they say a step is the begining of any journey, even that of ten thousand miles begins with one step.
-alot of what you say is part of growing up, the other story you should read is the Ugly Duckling, you are just now turning into a beautiful swan
-Today is the best day of your life and tommorow is only going to be better, I say that everyday to myself and anyone that asks me how my day is, try it, it works, being a positive person takes practice, alslo check out Norman Vincent Peal, a wonderful motivational speaker
-get out of yourself, find someone that needs more help than you, and be a mentor, be a friend, you will find you have a lot to offer and in turn will also grow, there is someone that needs a friend, be that friend

Awww honey, I know how you feel. It was as if I was reading about myself. the first step is to get away from whoever it is that's making you have a low self esteem, whether it be your parents,a sibling, or a bully at school. If you're family is the issue and your too young to move out there isn't much you can do except ride it out. I know how hard it is. I lived with a physically and emotionally abusive father, who thought I was the fattest, ugliest, dumbest child on the planet and he told me this daily. Until I grew up and got out of there i was just as you are. To this day I still have alot of trouble with self esteem and wanting to be accepted by EVERYONE. If someone doesn't like me I used to panic and wonder what can I do to make this right. Now frankly I don't give a damn what someone thinks of me unless they are someone I care for deeply.

Once you remove yourself from the negative surroundings, get yourself into some counseling where you can feel safe talking about your problems with someone who won't critisize you and will listen attentively. Try to look yourself in the mirrow everymorning and say ONE nice thing about yourself. Even if it's just " I don't look to crappy today" or "my eyes look pretty" something, anything.

Most of all you deserve to be happy and not feel the way you do about yourself. You are a worthwhile person who's opinions are just as valid as anyone elses. You are a human being too. It's going to be a long journey on this road to self discovery but it's one you can't put off taking. You need to find out who you are, they go out and be yourself and not care what everyone thinks about you. My self enlightenment didn't really hit me until i was about 24, and I realized how worthwhile I really was. And I figured out who I was and what I wanted...not what everyone else wanted FROM me.

Good Luck it will take some time, but you can do it. Don't be afraid of failing....everyone at some point and time in their life fails at something. But you can't put this off because your afraid you will fail...this is something you HAVE TO DO.

I would say anxiety and low self esteem. You need counsel.

You seriously have low self esteem. To the point that you should probably see a psychiatrist or counselor. You need to get over your fear being inadequate.

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Yes that is anxiety disorder. Try Effexor XR. Did wonders for me! I stopped over analyzing everything, was no longer constantly afraid of everything.

It sounds as if you have very low self esteem, and possibly depression. Anxiety is an offshoot of depression. Without knowing your age, etc., it is difficult to make suggestions. The only person who never makes a mistake is someone who never tries! What others may think of you is not so important as what YOU think of you! You may consider speaking with your family MD about this; counseling/meds may be needed. Some chemical imbalances have some of the s/s you mentioned. Good luck!

Possibly some self-esteem issues and perfectionist issues (I personally think the two co-incide quite frequently, but don't know of any studies backing this up). It's probably partially due to an introverted personality too, and being shy - although that in itself is not harmful.

From your examples, I would guess though inhibitating, it's not at a disorder level (yet) and you might be able to change your behavoir without having to rely on a counsellor. You could try yourself building up a few close friendships, making yourself speak in groups more often (so you learn it's not scary) etc - which will build up your confidence and self esteem.

If you find you can't change yourself, then you can try counselling.

Your problem is you don't like yourself and you don't think anyone else will either. You focus so much on your own failures and weakness that you don't know that everyone else has the same failures and weakness.

You are so busy trying to keep from revealing what you perceive as a flaw that you don't have time to be yourself. You need to quit hatting yourself. Accept the fact that everyone is flawed in some way and move on.

It sounds mostly like you have a fear of failure and fear of performing poorly in front of others. In other words, a social phobia. There are indications of other milder problems as well but that is what stands out. I would encourage you to seek a good psychologist, one you feel you can talk to and connect with well. If not, try another. These are all very treatable conditions. Once you do treat them, you will find you are a happier person and wish you'd done it a long time ago. Medication may help but is not the cure-all. Lastly, one person gave advice about a particular med that worked for them. Keep in mind that meds are a trial and error thing. What works for one may not work for another.