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My wife has a General Anxiety Disorder. How can I get her to tell the truth? |
I love my wife, but because of her anxiety disorder, she lies and keeps things from me due to irrational fears. She asks me not to take it personally, but we are married. We are supposed to be open and honest with each other. I need to be able to trust her and I just can't find a way to solve this problem. We've tried therapists and medication for years, but she lied to them too. We have two wonderful children and I fear that they will pick up on her anxious response of lying and keeping things hidden. What makes this especially difficult, is that I am very open and honest and the frustration I have with being unable to help her is tremendous. I'm really reaching out to all of you out there. Please give me some thoughtful and caring responses. No one can know how hard it has been living like this...... If you've tried medication and therapists already, it would seem you'll just have to accept her for who she is... illness and all. Maybe just when she lies in front of the children.... softly confront her with it and somehow let the children know it is not appropriate. That's a tough one... maybe ask the therapists how YOU can feel better and how to handle the situation with the children. Mental illness is surely and illness, and I'm sure your wife cannot help herself anymore than a diabetic can control their own insulin. The problem with mental illness....is the illness itself sometimes stops the patient from acting rationally enough to allow themselves to be treated. That's a tough one. But I think that maybe she isn't putting in the effort to change. You need to seek a professional. Please do not handle this on your own...for your sake, the children's and as well as her's. lots of people live this way with a loved one who is emotionally unwell and you can do it too=why don't you have a private chat with her Dr to see what you can do to help her Wow, I didn't know those were symptoms of anxiety. Just keep working at it with the professionals. There's got to be someone or something that will click with your wife, but I don't know what it is. Just keep on reassuring her that you stand beside her and support her. Have you tried couple's therapy? You need a better therapist. There is some kind of treatment out there for everyone. and you need therapy also to understand that you cannot "make" her tell the truth, shes not doing it purposely, or to hurt you. Anxiety disorders can take over your whole mind, and an fear to you that sounds silly is terrifying and debilitating to someone who has it. |
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