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What is the dating outlook for a thirty five year old man with bipolar disorder? |
I haven't dated since college. I'm just now asking women to meet me for coffee. I asked five women this year and every one of them said no. They have no idea about my illness. Be nice please. Hi please dont give up hope there is someone out there for all of us. I have bipolar and know a lot of other bipolar people that are very happy in good loving long term relationships. As for me I am open about what I have and say at the end of the day I am who I am with or with out my bipolar I am still the same person and if they don't like me just because of my bipolar thats there loss and not mine. take care lisa THEY SAID NO BECAUSE THEY ARE JERKS!!!! My sister has bi polar .It has nothing to do with it .Unless you tell someone they will never know.Unless they like know you for a while.They are jerks and don't know what they are missing!!!I am sure you are a great guy! I think the problem is your lack of self confidence or that you are picking the wrong women. Im 20 and in a two year relationship with a 38 yr guy with bipolar. We take each day as it comes and have good and bad days but I love him to death. The strength and determination with which he fights this disease, and his refusal to allow it to destroy him are some of the reasons I love him so much. It can be hard to use good judgement in initially asking someone out, and it may simply be that you haven't asked the right ones yet. Also THEY may not know that you have Bipolar, but YOU do know. Maybe you are afraid that they will reject you eventually anyway and this makes you come across as too nervous. So try to pick the right ones to ask, and remember that Bipolar does not dictate who you are...your personality does...you just need to be more confident. Actually, come to think of it, I have known a few guys with Bipolar and similar disorders and none of them found solid relationships or good partners untill their 30's and 40's, so things are looking up for you! Remember that anyone who rejects you solely on the basis of your having Bipolar, is not worth your trouble. Good luck! Don't stop now, you're on a roll. Practice makes perfect. What if it takes exactly 100 times of asking to get one good yes, would it be worth it? Rejections are a part of life. Don't dwell on the rejection, but for every one of them, write down another something you would like to do. Then ask someone else to do it with you. Your sister is a good starting point, or even your guy (I didn't say gay) friends, to get you used to having people around doing fun stuff with you. Another thing you can do, is to make a list of everything you like about yourself. Be known as a sharp dresser. Carry yourself with your head held high. Do something else that you enjoy every day (week.) (Don't do the same thing.) Spend time knowing yourself. Be an interesting person to be around. Open up, and learn to laugh at yourself. Robin Williams has Bi-Polar, along with some other actors and actresses. It is up to the girl. If it is under control, it may not be a problem. Now since it may or may not be genetic, the matter of raising children may come up if you decide to settle down and you two would have to resolve that difference. If they don't know about the disorder, then there is something else that is bugging them about you. Perhaps, they are involved or maybe you give off that you are uncomfortable and lack confidence. As for your disorder, I say, keep it to yourself because it's none of her business unless you think things are getting serious then you have to give her that much. Join the club here. I am a 38 year old woman with bipolar disorder and have been trying out the dating thing. I think it is more difficult for us because of the common experiences of having isolated from others at times and relationships be they romantic, friendships or sometimes family have suffered over the roller coaster ride. It makes it harder to take the risk and fear of rejection is common for us folks. I feel like a teenager in an adult world sometimes but dating is a big deal for everyone. The best advise I can give from my experience so far is to get out there, don't give up. Each time you ask someone out it is like practice and each time you meet someone for coffee, it may go onto a second cup or not. Do not take it personally if things do not go well, there are a hundred reasons why the person may have said no and most of them have nothing to do with you. I learn from each experience, do not focus on that second date, enjoy the first. Just remember, there is a Ms Right out there for you and a Mr Right out there for me, I just wish they would wear a label. Good luck. |
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