Wife sexually unexcitig, says its coz of contraception?

my wife is unhappy with contraception claiming it will make her sterile. the problem is, i dont want a child yet, i know she does. she's currently on depo and we can have sex, but she's not exciting, says its because the thot of the depo she's on and its effects worry her each time we try to make love. the result: she just lies idle, doesnt touch, fondle, kiss, really dont do nothing. anyone ever experienced this? i want us to make good love and be happy together. how do we resolve this?

it lowers libido but doesnt make somebody totally unresponsive. change the birth control and also talk to her about it

One of the most common side effects of birth control can be lack of interest in sex. This side effect does variety for people depending on what type of birth control that she is on. If this is a problem for you it may be worth while talking to her doctor about trying a different kind of birth control.

It may also be that she emotional isn't interested in that kind of relationship. I don't know the personal detail of your relationship, nor is it my business but it sounds like if it isn't the medicine it may just be that she may no longer have interest in having sex because she doesn't want to be on birth control and rather have a child.

I would definitely recommend talking to her doctor who prescribs and administers her shot and talk about other options. There are so many different kinds out there from the IUD to the patch to taking the pill. If one doesn't work, keep trying.

Hope that help :)

She needs to change medications, or possibly just go off of them. A lower dose might help, getting used to the Depo might help (maaaybe), switching to a diaphragm or condoms might be the best way to go.

None of these will make her sterile--as a matter of fact, she has a better chance of having complications like endometriosis and ectopic pregnancy while not on birth control.

When the Depo wears off try condoms for a while. It may make it a little less good for you, but her being not-turned-on makes it a lot worse for you both.

For one, depo and other forms of birth control will not make her sterile. I was on birth control for 8 years and got pregnant in 2 months after going off of it. My friend was specifically on depo for 5 years and she has 2 kids now.

I think she's just angry at you for insisting she takes birth control when she wants a baby. I think you two have to work through this anger before she'll enjoy sex again.

She should switch to another method of birth control. A lot of birth controls can completely KILL your sex drive; I was on one that made me not even want sex at all. Some of the lower-hormone/different hormone ones are better with that. I switched to Yaz, and on it, I still have a good sex drive. So suggest that she talks to her gynocologist or doctor about exploring another birth control method.

Also, birth control will NOT make her sterile.

Good luck, I hope this helps!

Birth Control Pills can affect sexual drive. She can change the kind of pill she is using, or you can change the method you are using to prevent pregnancy.
Other than the pill there might be other causes for her lack of interest in sex. Try to talk about it. These days I'm reading a book, which might be helpful:
"Sexual Happiness for Women: A Practical Approach"
http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Happiness-W...

Women tend to want a baby when the relationship os going south.
I suggest re evaluating your situatuion. She is just acting like that because she is not getting her way. If you take her off the birth control, she will rock your world in bed, I'm sure of it, BUT she will get pregnant. Is your relationship really ready for that??

I would either, break it off with her, or sleep with a dead fish. Reason being...I would rather sleep with a dead fish, than a pregnant, puking, moody, not in the mood, dead fish.

The pill took away my wifes sex drive then we got her an IUD and she was back to normal. Those things are awesome, no hormones, take like an hour to install, good for 5 years, take an hour to remove, and are more effective than a visectime.

Your wife is pouting. She wants a child so the depo angers her. Can you two compromise and come up with a date you will commence attempting to become pregnant? That's fair and will relieve her resentment toward the depo right now.

Better talk it through and come to a mutual finding of how and what to do now or you will both be looking to find a different relationship.
If you cant find a mutual arrangement between yourselves , seek help with outside counseling .

If it makes her uncomfortable in so many ways, then do away with it. Men will never understand what it is like wanting to have good enjoyable sex when women are on contraceptives.

It can effect one's sex drive. That much? I'm not sure.

Maybe she's just acting that way because she wants a child? Sounds a bit odd to me.

You could try condoms instead and see if that helps.

Speak with your family doctor, there are always options.

If you love your wife get her off of depo ASAP...........LIKE ASAP, despite what they claim it is HORRIBLE for your body and I almost died from it twice, once at 17 it gave me a blood clot in my lings and I had a 50/50 chance of living out the next 24 hours (100% the depo the doctors said) , The second time I started hemoraging from it and almost died.....infact I didnt realise how bad I even was or that I was dying except the hospital called a search and rescue team to find me cause if I wasnt treated in hours I would have died (i was out with friends thinking it was just an odd period out of knowhere) do your own research youll find countless horror stories.....and your wife is right it is damaging her chances on having kids not permanetly but it may take years of trying to concieve later, I suggest switching methods ....there are so many new ones there has to be something she will feel comfortable with BUT GET HER OFF THE DEPO.......