Am I alone? Is there any grownups here suffering from depression because of your parents (abuse, neglect)?

Everyone tell me that I am no longer a child and can lead my own life. But they don't understand that my emotion is directly affected by my dearest (or suppose to be!) people around me.

you can learn to lead your own life but that doesnt mean that what happend to you doesnt still hurt and cause real emotional pain and damage...

going through child abuse can lead to clinical depression which is very very hard to fight through..

many many people have been abused and have depression and other problems as a result.. you aren't the only one. i too am dealing with PTSD- post traumatic stress disorder (chronic) and depression due to childhood trauma and I'm no longer a teeanger. I'm 30 now and I have accomplished a lot in my life but some times things are very hard. I still have nightmares and flashbacks and triggers. All of this makes me very angry especialy at my father and others.

Anyways, a lot of people sometimes dont or dont want to understand and honestly I rarely tell people because it's too scary and I dont want to deal with their judgement or invalidation. Just like some of the rude comments on here. It's brave of you to ask this question here.

Anyways, therapy can be an awesome help. I can attest to that. finding the right therapist for you can be trickly but it can really help in working out your past and reclaiming your life now. I still have problems that im working out but I have accomplished alot, finishing college, I plan to go to graduate school, i do research, i love to paint, draw, write poetry.. I think Im a beautiful person most times and I know I didnt deserve what happend to me. I truly believe my parents love me but had parenting issues but that doesnt make what happend okay.

It does hurt and its very hard but its something a lot of us have been through and you arent alone.

One book i loved alot was this book by iyanla Vanzant called Yesterday I cried... it is one of my favorite books in relation to childhood trauma and its effects on the psyche as well as learning to process it. there are tons of good books out there that can help a lot in the process along with therapy.

Best of fortune and know you arent alone!

some things leave deeper scars that others can't always understand. if you've been neglected and always tried to please your parents, to no avail, then it's tough to come to terms that you don't need to always try to please people....just for a compliment.

abuse is also difficult to get around for most people. if even part of a former situation occurs often the person will freak out slightly or think back to their own abuse situation and not handle it well.

a way to help ease all this is to find someone you're completely comfortable with and let them know these things and have them to call and fall back on to calm you if you can't yourself. or find something else you can do that'll calm you and make you see everything's okay.

just because you're an adult doesn't mean you can't have issues and it's worse when you can find no one who understands.

hopefully that helped some. stay safe

Many people suffer as adults from past abuse in the form of depression, PTSD, etc. It is "normal" when "loving" people treat you in a very non-loving way. A place to start is understanding the lies you believe about yourself because of the abuse/trauma even though I don't know what they were. That's hard to do by yourself without help. They are the abusers, you are the victim which means none is your fault. You can lead your own life and are no longer a child...which means you do not allow them to treat you in any abusive way now...and take control of your life back by getting some help at understanding how and why it has affected you. Feel free to email me...mysihba@yahoo....if you'd like more help or suggestions

many depressions stem from abusive childhoods - and so many people still find their parents have a firm grip over hem even into adulthood - the first thing to do is remind yourself you are grown-up now and no-one can threaten or control you without your permission. You are your number one person to care for and only you can make certain you are cared for well. Living is not about being intimidated by others no matter who they think they are even if they gave you life you owe them nothing as it was not your choice to be here but theirs. When people are neglected it tends to them even more clingy be aware that this can happen and that is enough to make you realise you could be overly demanding of other people time.

Parental neglect and abuse can leave lasting scars and mental injuries that CAN persist a lifetime without counseling. It's easy for people to say "just move on" "that's in the past" and the like but they are the ones who do not understand the deep psychological effects of abuse and neglect. I recommend counseling for you!! I am a survivor of parental abuse and neglect and have had a really hard time getting ym life started. i struggled with addictions for years , I have been sober now for more than a year and Im in school studying what i love. But I am 35 and it took YEARS of therapy to reach this point. Please, get help, its out there!

My sister is 40 and still suffers because of abuse from our Dad when she was younger. He still torments her. She lives a pretty rich life though, she has regular therapy and has wonderful children. You can move on, you can lead a good life - but the hurt may never disappear completely.

I suggest a book "Bad Childhood, Good Life" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It's good stuff.

nope ur not im one of u!! they only dont show their emotions but they love u!!!! some parents cannot accept their mistakes thats y they neglect their child!!!!

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