How can I help a person from getting out of depression?

This person is self deprciating, suicidal, and very judgemental. He criticizes people negatively, and looks down on himself, wouldnt let anyone into his life, never wants friends, but he wants companionship b/c he's very lonely. He has always been this way since he was in elementary school. People made fun of him and he took them seriously and believed negative comments by others are true. So he wouldn't finish college 卢 even looking for a decent job of any kind. He just work in a small shop to make ends meet. I don't want to see him like this for the rest of his life. He has no confidence around others & I think the only way to get his esteem back is to finish school and look for a decent job. But I don't know y he fears about people rejecting him and being judged by others( he's very judgemental) he won't try anything to help himself, just lock himself in his room all dayto watch youtube, plays videogames, he hate his parents for making him self depraved person. help

I was like that for quite a while, especialy the judgemental part, and because he is judgmental, he most likely thinks everyone is judgemental, and most of the people i knew were judgemental. The key to stopping that is getting non-judgemental friends, that will also get him out to do more, and mabye if hes more outgoing then he will go back to collage.

I'm not a psychiatrist, but I now how to help a person in this condition. To help him you must understand what is him favorite thing - it must have something that he likes - maybe painting, walking, talking, I don't know - something. Then encourage him to do the thing he likes, but no the video gaming thing, that is disaster. Other thing is to make him valuable - by asking him for advice in some complicated situation, and of course you must follow his advice.

his caring about life is his responsibility and his decision. trying to help him is not actually a help, more of intruding his life. but maybe you can just help him in the way he wants. if he wants another lock for his room door, you can give it to him.

talk to him i had a friend like that he only trusted me and my other friend cause we knew him since preschool

He sounds like me. I can relate to him. It also sounds like he has major depression, which I can relate to even more.

The fact that he's so depressed and miserable most likely stems from, not only his upbringing, but perhaps even more so his lonliness. Living alone, never going anywhere or associating with anyone your age and being a constant recluse will easily make a person very bitter and judgmental. Your friend is sadly experiencing the symptoms of severe lonliness and living a reclusive lifestyle. Whether we want to admitt it or not, no matter how introverted a person might be, EVERYBODY craves social contact with people who they can relate to and companionship. Have you ever seen a truly happy person who lives alone and is alone most of the time in their lives? Of course not. Humans are social creatures by nature.

My advice to you in regards to helping him would be to first try to get him out of the house. Take him out to see a movie or bowling or something of that nature. Essentially pull him out of his cave and allow him to experience what's out there in the world a little bit. No matter how reluctant he is to do this, if you're his friend, he should be at least somewhat willing to spend some time with you in this manner. I'm 99% sure he'll be dying to say yes the moment you mention it to him, it'll just be a matter of whether or not he's willing to leave his safe haven and take a few risks out in the real world, which is not an easy thing to do in his situation, as I know.

If you can get him to do that, then that is one big step forward. If he agrees to go out with you the first time and all goes smoothly, invite him out with you a few more times afterwords and make it a regular occurance in his life. As you continue to participate in these activities with him, he should start to gradually warm up to the world a little bit more each time, until he feels comfortable enough to maybe meet and attempt to get to know some people for potential future friendships. By then, it will also be a good opportunity for him to possibly meet a life companion, which is probably ultimately more important to him than anything else at this point in his life.

I guess basicly what I'm saying is, just continue to be a friend to him and be somewhat of a "life coach" to him as he essentially rediscovers the world. If all goes according to plan, in time this method should help him meet new people and make some serious positive changes in his life.

One more thing. When you start taking him out on these outings, be sure to not try and force him to interact with anyone he doesn't want to interact with or force him to do anything he doesn't want to do. You must understand that he is very emotionally and psychologically fragile at this point, and attempting to help him by being relentless and through domnination will only make things much worse. That method never, ever works with people in his current state of mind.

I hope your friend gets the help he needs and I wish both of you the best of luck.

Michael