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What would you do in my situation.. (depression)?

i suffer from a badbad depression and its ruining my life.. i have no friends .. nothing all i have is my mom and sisters.
I also have to try and be happy for my little sisters because i watch them everyday for my mother and she always is complaining when i look down and out and says im going to have to quit my job great bla bla bla.. and just puts me down.. i feel like i cant help my feelings anymore and they cant hide.. what would u do.. would u just fall apart so that everyone would leave u alone and you can be by yourself.. or do u keep it together.. (please no rude coments)

My parents used to be that way. My mom would tell me I was "depressed" because I was a "hormonal teenager" and everyone at home and school would give me **** for "sulking."

Sure... I was down. I didn't have any friends. I didn't have a good relationship with my family. But you don't have to do anything drastic like "fall apart" or "keep it together" for things to work out. I think phrases like this denote a FINALITY that, lets face it, doesn't exist in the realms of conflict and family.

I know what you feel like-- wanting to be alone. I dreamed of moving out and living alone since the age 15. At 17, I did move out. You could too if you really wanted to, but I think there are easier ways.

Next time your mom pulls the guilt-trip thing on you: "Oh you're not competent enough to watch the kids. I guess I'll have to quit my job"-- you need to let her know that you're trying to be helpful. You stay home and be a mommy while your mommy is at work and that's not an obligation. Tell your mom that your ATTITUDE is part of who you are right now, and it happens to be a down-in-the-doldrums attitude, but that it's NOT a ploy to sabotage her out of a job or your siblings out of happiness. It's just the way you feel and you can only work with what you have.

My parents still talk about me like I'm going through phases. I'm still melancholy sometimes and they pull out the whole "that'll change when you have a family and responsibilities of your own."

...yeah, well I might change if I ever had a family of my own. But right now, I'm me. And I am NOT a phase that anyone can guilt-rip me out of.

Best of luck...and stand up for yourself OK?

I dont know how old you are, but you really need to sit down and think about what you could do to get out of the situation. Depression is no joke. I think you should consulate a doctor and see if you have depression to begin with. If you do, better take the medicie the doctor prescribes.

If you can't do that, make yourself a list that puts you down and talk to the people who are responsible for it. For example, your mother. Don't just leave the situation alone. Its not a healthy choice for you and those around you.

Good Luck...

You should start with finding some friends, then find something to get your adrenaline flowing, seems like you're stuck in a rut.. the only way out is through movement, not moping

try to keep it together jus explain to your mom what your going through and maybe ask her to take you to a depression specialist

Hmm... taking a brisk walk helps... or any exercise for that matter.

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how old are you? here is a similar situation, when i was growing up my mom had a child 10 years after me. i was her designated babysitter and hated it. i delt with it for quite some time but there comes a time and place where your mother really needs to figure out what shes gonna do cause you aint her babysitter. tell her to apply for daycare assistance because she can qualify for it if she doesnt make a ton of money. i make good money and i quialify for daycare assistance. you need your time alone to tell your mother that and that you are depressed and need help and babysitting makes it work . if she cares she will try to fix it. girl try to keep it together. you will get through this. if you are having suicidal thoughts at all please go to the nearest clinic and try to get some help. if your not suicidal maybe you should go to the doctor so that you can get help before you do something drastic. youll be fine. tell your mom that she needs to be independent and not depend on her children. you go girly . i hope it works

hey i have been there just recently, i wanted to alone all the time, i must have cryed myself to sleep every night for like 4 or 5 months straight ... the truth is that u need to talk about it with someone. i got lucky and a friend from a few years ago got in contact with me and i pretty much told him to get lost but he said he had been there and i opened up to him.... tell ur mom how u feel the more u keep it to urself the worse it will get.... just know ur not alone in the way you feel... keep ur head up trust me it gets better even if it takes a while it will get better

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