Genital Herpes.. spiraling depression..?

I got genital herpes 4 months ago. I forgave the guy who gave it to me. We were never an official couple, but one day he dropped me just because I would not perform oral sex on his infected private part. I still can't get over him even though he did me so wrong. More recently in the 4 month, I've been thinking about him and having dreams. I suddenly find myself crying because I haven't moved on pass this like I thought I did. It seems like I'm becoming more depressed now than I was when I first found out. I never really was down about it until now. The first few days I cried about it, but quickly realized that I made a mistake and trusted someone and I can't change the past. Now after 4 months I'm feeling depressed and rejected. I feel like I will never find anyone who will accept me. Is this common to become deeper into depression over time instead of coming out the hole of depression? I feel like I'm going the opposite direction and making no progress...

When I was first diagnosed, I felt horrible. And I was also very frightened that no one would accept me.

But I dated several men after diagnosis, and I've never been rejected for my genital herpes. And I'm now happily married.

I assume that you've heard stories like mine, and you've heard again and again that you'll find someone (probably many people) who won't have a problem with your herpes. And I assume that you've read up on your disease, so you know that you really don't have much to worry about, health-wise. Herpes doesn't cause cancer or death or infertility.

I suspect that this isn't a genital herpes problem. It's a depression problem. You need to see a mental health professional (or join a herpes support group, or find an online community for support) so that you can get through this.

By the way, even after things are much much better, you'll still sometimes be sad about the herpes. Even though it doesn't affect my life hardly at all, and honestly I'd take the same risks again, given the choice, I still wish sometimes that I hadn't caught it. But you shouldnt' be having "spiraling depression" about it.

Good luck.

i find myself finally accepting the fact that i have it. now for about 5-6 years. on top of that i have gential warts and that topped it off for me. like i told one girl on here. if a guy cant see past that then forgot him. there are plently of men out there!! when a guy freaks out when i tell them my situation...i figure that sex is all they obviously wanted anyway..

i think for you its more along the lines of that guy being a complete jerk towards you about everything. you cant give up on yourself just b/c you made a mistake. you have to learn to let it go or you will continue to be in this spiral forever. no its not fun. even i find myself crying once in awhile of how stupid and ignorant i was for letting it happen. we have to pick up and move on. i know its easier said then done but, soon you too will be saying "this is me, this is who i am and what i got..if you dont like it then go away!" i do have to admit though now that i have made these mistakes..im afraid to be in a relationship. you cant trust anyone..