Err.. Depression help?

So lately I have been feeling depressed. Mainly because of my mom. She has been VERY stressed out, as most adults are these days (Economy, gas prices etc.). And whenever I ask for anything, she makes me feel guilty about it. She tells me how selfish I am and how I need to shut up. And lately that guilt has sort of become ever-present in my mind. I feel like a selfish brat that is a hassle to have around.
Sometimes I could swear that she hates me, just by the look in her eyes and the tone of her voice. I've been having thoughts of suicide or basically physical punishment, because I am such a selfish idiot. I don't understand why she thinks what she does, but she does. I mean, I don't get in trouble in school, I make passing grades, and I have a very supportive and smart group of friends. I always say thank you. I don't get it. I help around the house as much as I can.
The only thing that keeps me hanging on is my music and my friends. How do I, um, cheer myself up, I guess..?

Or rather... how do I.. quit putting myself down I guess. I don't know.. it may be a low self esteem thing. But like, she orders me around and gets mad if I don't do it fast enough and never shows any form of gratitude or sympathy.

Do not kill yourself, or even hurt yourslef, no matter what. If you have depression, its probably not a chemical depression but a situational depression- in response to your mom's emotional abuse. SO many parents tear their kids down when they are stressed without even realizing it. I suggest, if you are in the us, that you call this hotline:
1-800-448-3000
They are free and open 24 hours a day, every day. They are called Boystown, although they help everyone, its just an old name. Thier specialty is talking to teens in crisis confidentially and helping them to figure out what to do. They can really help you feel better- for free!
Give it a try...they are experts, and have helped a lot of kids with similar issues. Message me with an update, and stay safe!

Thanks! I programmed the number onto my phone in case I hit another low.. :D Report Abuse

I'm really sorry about your situation. I feel that we have alot in common since my mother is almost the same as yours. But the way I got out of my depression was join the gym. Or just go run or something because when people do phyicical activity it releases enforphants into your brain that make you feel more happy. Or if you dont wanna go the phycial workout way. You can always eat chocolate. Chocolate is like an antidepressant !

I have this same problem! But i just tell myself that this won't last forever because suicide is just a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Maybe you could try to do things for your mom like clean up the house or something so that it will get her in a good mood. Hope this helps!

well one thing you can stare at your avatar for a couple of hours

another thing is just think of a brighter tomorrow and how that will be like always set ur eyes on better dayz


then you can go buy tupac's album better dayz and tell me how it is

just try to understand that it is her and not you. hopefully this is a phase for her and she will get over it. maybe you could sit down and tell her how the way she is treating you is making you feel. maybe she will ease up on you.

You shouldnt be depressed about something like this, but if your unhappy then you really need to talk with your mum, depends how old you are, if your a teenager then you will just be going through that stage of life

just hang out with your friends, give your mom some space and if ur old enough try and find a job to show her that ur not selfish

You need a vacation. REALLY

When I start to feel like that at work I take a vacation and come back all happy.

leave her alone and do your great business

It seems that your mother is taking out her anger on you. I feel very bad for you because as the adult she shouldn't call you names nor tell you to shut-up! Very rude, and bad.
I would tell you to go to the school Psychologist, it's good to speak to someone and have them help you. Good luck, and don't let her words, or anyone's bad words get to you. Your mother might not be dealing with her stress like an adult, she still loves you, but she is taking it out on you.

Go speak to someone, and don't get depressed about that. You are not selfish!

I'm guessing your mom loves you. Why would anyone want to hate you? You seem like a sweet , smart, and caring person. If your mom is really stressed about things she might sometimes take the stress out on you. Dont be so down on yourself. Stop thinking about suicide because no matter what happens that is NEVER THE ANSWER! Dont physically hurt yourself either. Your mom might be stressed now but just think about how she will feel if you died. I'm sure she would be horrified. You might want to start getting some counceling or maybe even get involved with your church if you go to church. I'm not sure how old you are but if you dont like asking for things from your mom anymore you might want to get a job.

Some parents are just like that and you just have to learn to live with them. I know it is hard to do, but I imagine that she is feeling stressed and when you ask for something it is the straw that breaks the camel's back. Forget about the suicide. You are just trying to punish your Mom by doing that. You might need to find an adult you can trust such as a school counselor, a pastor or priest, or a friend's Mom who will listen to you and give you suggestions on what to do to fix your problem. There is too much going on there for us to fix here in this forum.

The one thing that you must remeber is that your mothers anger has nothing to do with you. You are not an idiot, you are not selffish and there's no reason to feel guilty because you did nothing wrong. Your mother seems to be going through a tough time and is probably dealing with many feelings that she's not very fond of feeling. Try giving her a hug and telling her that you love her. Don't appologize, because your not doing anything wrong. Sometimes people need to have some reasurrance even if it comes from there daughter. I hope that helped.