Can depression come from humilation?

When I entered high school people made fun of me all the time, then I got into 11th grade and it got worse, the humilation was partially my fault, I stopped talking care of myself, I had constant stomach problems and I didn't do my work. You think I would learn by now how to be an adult, but I didnt, I just kind of shut down, people thought I was a rape victim b/c I wouldn't talk to anyone, I couldn't even look people in the eye b/c I feel ashamed of myself, all b/c I'm unattractive and have poor hygene. Now I kind of just do nothing, I don't want to learn how to drive or go to the movies, or even go out with my family b/c people hate me. I feel I'm so burdensome. People have got the wrong impression of me and believe any rumour that is started, I don't know what to do. Should I seek help or I'm I just whining?

You are depressed, have a poor self-image and very poor self-esteem. This is the reason you stopped taking care of yourself and not caring anymore. You need to get some help as soon as you can. Teen years are rough under the best of circumstances, but you can change your life if you just reach out to someone and ask for help.

Ok, don't listen to that rude comment. I really think you should seek help, because you sound like you have really low self esteem problems and considering yourself a burden is horrible. You should try to talk to someone, soon.

If its making you feel low like you have said then yes you should get help and yes you can get depression from things like that. i dont think you're whining and you like any other human doesn't deserve to live like you have described

suck it up...stop whining, and have some confidence woman! Get your butt off the computer for one, and go for a jog.

I don't think it's bad enough that you need to seek help but you don need do somthign about it. It's not good to be like this and I know because I use to be exactly the same way. Write a list of why you don't want to be this way anymore and another list of the things you want to achieve. eg. How much weight you want to lose, what you want to do about ur appearence, what grades you want to achieve. Bin the first list and stick the second up somewhere in clear view. Tell yourself you will do these things by the end of the year and forget about the bad things. The better you regard yourself the better others will too. If you don't like the impression others get from you - you're the only one who can change it! when you start feeling and looking better you will find you feel happier, have more friends and you will have a better outllook on things. This time next year you could be a completely different person! Good luck x

You are the only one that can pull yourself out of the rut you are in. First of all you need to address the poor hygene, make it a point to be fresh and clean. When you take care of your self and respect yourself people appreciate that and no one gets offended. Go for a new haircut and talk to your stylist about keeping up with your new do. They are usually happy people that want to help you look and feel your best. That would be a good place to start, you have the control whether or not you know it, it starts with you.

Oh baby... It's all intertwined. You are a beautiful child of (the)God (of your understanding!). You need to know that.

I'm muuuuch older than you, but reading your question took me back to my high school days - and sadly, I was in the very same state of mind (and body) you are. NO ONE hates you, you are depressed, sweetie. I waited til I was in my 30's to seek help, and I actually found that I was depressed through my general practitioner. Can you imagine feeling like you described for 30 years?! Your pain is real. How you perceive people and things around you are not really how you see them - you see through the eyes of depression which is like smearing vaseline on your reading glasses :-)

Talk, talk, talk - then talk some more and let (trusted) others know how you feel and how you see things. Be open to the very real possibility that you can and will be a whole new person with a clean pair of "reading glasses" the moment you get therapy and (most likely) some meds. Would you look down on a diabetic for taking insulin? NO you wouldn't. So don't look down on yourself for needing to augment a chemical imbalance.

There's no time like the present my dear - reach out today. You're gonna miss so much WONDERFULNESS and I don't want you to miss as much time as I did. Take good care. You are liked, you are loved, you are unique and you have incredible gifts that only YOU can give this world. Don't be selfish - get better so the world can enjoy your presence.

you have already taken the first step aknowledging what is wrong. now for the second step taking action. start with the the small stuff. apearance, hygene, ect. one you have begun that. look into treatment for depression. sometimes, a person only needs the help of medication or counseling for a short time to get back on track. then find something out side of your self to focus on, like helping with animals or kids, and before you know it your life will take off. best of luck to you, but it does start and end with you.

Depression can be caused by several different factors--it can be a chemical imbalance in your brain, or, as in your case, it can be situational depression triggered by bad circumstances in your life, like the harassment you are experiencing at school. Letting personal hygiene slip is a classic symptom of depression; so is the kind of social anxiety you describe, and the lack of motivation to do even the things you used to enjoy doing.

But! Don't be ashamed, be proud of yourself, because by posting this question, you have taken the first step toward improving your quality of life! This isn't whining at all: it's a mature and positive step in dealing with your issues.There are many different steps you can take to deal with the debilitating depression you're going through. Counseling/therapy is one option; it can be expensive, but talk to your parents or your school counselor to see if something is available through your school, or if your insurance covers therapy. Another option is antidepressants, but they are not for everyone. Again, talk to someone you trust . Homeopathic remedies are also an option if you don't like the idea of going on a heavy course of medication.

There are small things you can do, too, on your own. It may sound unappealing, but doing regular exercise releases endorphins in your brain and puts you on a natural high. Meditation can also be helpful; do a little internet research and see if that's your thing. Escapism in the form of a good book or a TV show has always helped me. (I recommend Buffy; she's a strong, independent female heroine who goes through a lot of ****. Those DVDs saved my sanity.)

I just want to say a few more, personal things to you. Please do not blame yourself for the bullying you have been experiencing. You say you haven't learned how to be an adult, but in trying to rise above all this bullshit and find a solution, you are already showing maturity, and a hell of a lot more than your asshole classmates. High school students can be VERY cruel, and I think adults sometimes dismiss this or forget this. But everyone is going through a dramatic life change at a different pace, trying to live up to new, adult expectations, and unfortunately some people deal with their own issues by tormenting others. You WILL get through this, though, and you will be a stronger, kinder, and more interesting person because of it. I'm 24, and everyone I know who's worth talking to went through some bullying and difficulty in school. Things are dark, but they WILL come to an end. Your world will expand far beyond high school in a few years, and it can only get better. You are not alone, and you are not a burden. You are a unique, evolving person with individual gifts to give to the world. And you will be able to do that once you take steps to improve your mental health.

Best of luck dealing with your sadness. Stay strong. Your confidence will come back.