How to get over depression from having genital herpes?

I have genital herpes.. today i was talking to this guy that i want to have sexual relations with n so i told him that ihave genital herpes n he gave me the cold shoulder n said that he cant risk getting that from me n we can just be friends... now im really in ahole n i dont know how to get out can someone help me cheer up??

Hey it sucks, but you have to deal with it and have a happy life. What else are you going to do? It's not like you're paralyzed right? I mean things could be a lot worse.

Deal with it. Don't focus on it, and get busy making your life great despite the set back, which could be a lot worse you know?

Being happy is much about being happy. So be happy.

Get some literature on the Stuff. You know the kind that says to use a rubber, and the Medications that are available for controlling the Outbreaks. You are Only Contagious when you have an Outbreak!!! There are Many different Drugs out these days to Control that. I know many Men and women that have perfectly Normal Sex Lives that have Herpes, take the Meds, and do Not have Sex if having an outbreak. None of them have given it to Anyone Else!!! You did the Right Thing by Telling the Guy!!! Most people Don't and that's how the disease gets Spread.

Try thinking about other things. NOT SEX because that is probably what got you in trouble in the first place. Try thinking about hobbies and stuff. And if someone comes into your life that you want to have a relationship with tell them. If they really love you they shouldn't shun you. But don't let guys giving you the cold shoulder get you down because that is a sign that they are into you for one thing.


JJ down there you can STILL get it even if she doesn't break out.

Well, I would be depressed too. You will have to deal with this for the rest of your life. That said...think of all the poeple who have worse things that they will have to deal with for the rest of their lives. How about the blind, the retarded, the paralyzed. You just play the cards that you are dealt...or that you have dealt yourself. They say that one in five people under the age of 25 have herpes. I am truly sorry for you all...BUT...think of all of the people that already have it and will sympathize with your situation. Let the people that don't have it find each other and those of you who have it find each other. I can't imagine anything worse than having to try and balance a relationship determined by "not infecting your loved one".

Talk therapy, and possibly a short course of medication.

Good for you for being honest with this guy. This condition is not an end to intimate relations; just intimate relations with a$$holes. Don't beat yourself up. Call your primary care physician's office and ask for a mental health referral. It will do you a lot of good to talk through this with a professional.

Best regards, friend.

This happened to me also. My bf acted supportive but then wouldn't even touch me. The great hting about hsv is that it helps you weed out the jerks. If they really want you for who you are they will stick around and not let the virus define you. There are great sites out there that offer help. (yoshi2me.com has some great boards that offer help and lots of information). It does hurt and is horrible at first. I cried for days!! lol... now I don't even really think about it.

I also went on daily therapy and have been on it since (i've had this for a couple years). This is more so for the sake of my FI. Just remember that someone out there will love you and not care. Remember to be open and honest with people though no matter what. The rejection hurts but allows you to find someone who will be worth it in the end :)

get some valtrex! j/k/ at least ure honest... I wouldnt want to contract a STD. so you cant really blame him. try not to have SEX for a while... that could be the problem you could put some innocent person at risk or they could put you in a bigger risk and give u other STDs. Take some time for yourself first, and try to live a healthy life style be positive and make the best of it. .

I dont' know but I'm sorry honey...
maybe talk to a counselor or your gyno for help?

I wouldn't post it here though, don't give people the satisfaction of posting negative things to you.

Good luck honey, I hope you cheer up soon :)

there must be groups for people with STD's so if you want to (and be considerate enough) bang someone, bang someone in that group who already has it so u dont spread. at least, hopefully you wont feel guilty about spreading it.

Everything will be alright this gurl I know likes me and she have it and I liked her 2 and I still like her if she said she want 2 have sex and she has the pill I would do it cuz I know I can't catch it only when she brakes out

Herpes is only contagious within contact during an outbreak. Don't run from the problem, solve it.

Try this: http://www.getridofherpes.com/
This program really worked for me and now my life is better because of it!

This website has some very helpful info. Go there and do some of the suggestions that they have there. Good Luck!!!

http://herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_and_s...

take that pill or whatever to stop it spreading.
you know, that commercial?
I believe there are remedies out there.
He should stop being so obstinate

There are support groups and groups of people who date exclusively..good for you for telling the guy...I respect your honesty and truthfulness

i would suggest talking to your doctor. maybe they can recommend an antidepressant

Wow, it takes guts to tell someone that. And good for you! Thats good that your letting guys know..

you might want to try an anti-depressant?

soemone will love you even for having that unfortunate disease... just wait for the right man, sista!

use a condom? too late i guess um use that medicine on the commercials fur that but either way thats nasty

i suggest a vibrator

Don't tell anyone that you have it.

that is a really good thing to tell people and go to pozcupid.com date of their they could help to its free