Will depression medication work if I have A DAMN GOOD REASON to be depressed? I just confirmed my husband...

... is having a long-term emotional (cyber) relationship. My friends tell me to go to my doctor to get help, but I have a solid, tangible reason I'm depressed.

I also have many health issues, the primary one being that I have a kidney transplant. For years my husband said it was "in my head..." but now I know better.

Will meds' work? I can't confront him yet... I'm in the process of gathering stuff together for a divorce, but I can't sleep, eat... need advice, please!

I don't need med's or whatever for long term... that's just not me... I take enough med's already!!

I need something to help me sleep, eat, function in this short-term!

every one is different but depression almost ruined my 30 plus year marriage.. wife finally went to dr and got help and her life back,and our life too..

The medication will take the edge off and should be combined with therapy. They are of course not a cure but a tool. The meds and therapy will help you to deal with your issues in a constructive way. I have been through the mill over the last few years and both helped me. Without the extra help I do not think I would have made it through as well as I did. The depression will not disappear, per se, but you will deal with it in a better way.

I am sorry this happened to you - I know that it is extremely stressful, and depressing. You don't have to worry about anyone thinking you are being over-dramatic for getting medication to help with depression. I would defintely go talk to someone, and get help. The last thing you need is for your health to suffer becuase your husband is being a selfish pig!

sometimes it takes others to notice how stressed we really are. Yes you have every reason to be stressed and I think the meds would help. They aren't addictive and you should see them aas a short term solution for helping you to cope. When youre not eating properly or sleeping you are definetly stressed

That's not a real reason to be depressed. How could he love someone whose face he has never seen?

Ok. The kidney thing is pretty terrible though. Pysch drugs are bad for your bodily organs, so please don't take them. Try herbs, vitamins, exercise, and even prayer instead.

Take up some form of exercise. It will help keep you calm and help the depression. The depression medication will not solve your problems, but it won't hurt anything. Might keep you from getting any more depressed. Good luck. Hope things get better for you.

how about this. you and your friends go away for a week or two. and just go have fun and party. this will keep your mind off things. and when you come back you'll be happier and you can finish things up for a divorce. and move the hell on cuz your husband sounds like a piece of crap!

You need to go to a Psychiatrist to get anti-depressants. and with your medical history, they need to know that, so there is no drug interaction.

Make an appointment today!

They may just help you to carry on regular functioning. You will still be sad or angry, but it won't feel like you're going out of control with it.

This is a very tricky situation.
the problem with anti-depressant medication is that they take a month to work, and given your kidney transplant status, your doctor is unlikely to prescribe the full dose of whatever anti-depressant.
If I were in your shoes I think I'd get my doctor to prescribe sleeping pills so at least my body would have opportunity to rest.
In your condition it's of the utmost importance that you take care of yourself and don't do anything to jeopardize your health or your transplant.(I know a bit about this stuff, am currently on dialysis 4x a week)
Personally, I don't have great faith in medications in general, and even less in anti-depressants. I would try my best to tough out this rough spot. Knowing that you've done it before with your kidney situation helps; try and look at it like a temporary situation that going to get fixed.
Just for the record, I also believe in Karma. Your husband has acted like a louse and can expect a come-uppance.
For you, I hope you keep your strength up and wish you all the best.It hasn't been easy for you and it's time you get a break. Good luck!!

PLEASE go to a doctor. Yes you do have a good reason to be depressed- but that doesnt make your depression go away. It may be in your best interest to talk to someone- because I think what you are dealing with is far more than just simply his cyber affair. It isnt a very supportive partner that tells you things are "just in your head" I can only imagine the pain that you are dealing with- I went thought a terrible divorce too- but I am so glad to are finding the strength to do it. Talk to your doc about everthing you just mentioned here- and he will be able to advise you as to what the best thing is to do. I will be thinking about you- please hang in there! (If you want a natural sleep aid go to a health food store and pick up some melitionen. Than may help you greatly)

You may be right. You may not need any medication. But getting help from a professional is good advice. A therapist can be a disinterested party and can help you answer the dozens of questions which will occur every moment of the day. You are the only person who knows your situation-- whether you have kids, how you would live on your own, what the good and bad about your husband is. These things are different for each person and none of us here on line is in a position to judge based on the very limited information you have provided.

Good luck to you. I have a feeling you will be okay.