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A close male friend has been told by doctor he is suffering from depression and stress . . .? |
I know he wants my support and usually I am good at this but this one is difficult. He doesnt have a stressful job and I cant understand why he is feeling depressed. He asks my advice and when I offer it he says I'm not helping. I just dont know what to say to him any more. I cant tell him what he wants to hear because I honestly think he needs a good shake (sorry - I know many of you will be angry with me but its how I feel). I cant help him - he will do nothing to help himself. I just listen and let him get things off his chest but have to bite my lip as I feel if he had my life then he would have a reason to feel stressed. I know I'm not helping him so what should I do - distance myself from him and let him sort his life out, should I keep in regular contact or should I just lend an ear when he wants to talk to me? He's normally such a cheerful person its hard to think of him being down - I've heard that it's these men who are most likely to attempt suicide - HELP !!! Not an easy situation to deal with. Don't put yourself down: you ARE already doing a lot just by listening and letting him express himself. He is seeing his doctor, so don't worry too much about him committing suicide: he knows he has a mental health problem and he's doing something about it. Isn't he? All you can do is be there for him, perhaps make sure he is keeping in touch with his doctor, taking his medication if he has been prescribed it... It takes a long time to get ill that way and it takes a long time to get well too, so be strong. Good luck to you both. Depression is a very tough condition. Best luck to your friend. You need to give him the shake he really wants. That gets rid of depression. If he is suffering from depression, he has a chemical imbalance in his brain and needs to be medicated. There is absolutely nothing you can do to help him with this condition. Try to get him to see his doctor and ask for some medication to help with the depression. It is very hard to help depressed people. Giving advice is often futile. Giving them a shake is also not very effective. Either they will snap out of it or require professional treatment. In the mean time just act normal. Best thing is to find out that what he enjoyed most. He should have some sort of activity which he likes most. If he likes to watch movis take him to movies. If he is intersetd in talking to diffrent peoples he should use CHAT Rooms in Yahoo chat. He should keep himself busy with some thing he like most. Don't let it take over YOUR life because people like that can bring you down, but at the same time don't ditch him. Maybe convince him to go to some self help groups or something, I would use meds as a last resort because even the term anti depressants sounds depressing! and usually people on those just don't even try to be cheerful, because they expect the meds to do everything. Good luck! |
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