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Guy i'm dating/single dad feels he "grew up 2 fast" and also has mild depression...how do I help him. |
Recently started dating a 23 y/osingle dad of a toddler who is absolutely amazing. A couple of times he's brought up the fact that bummed out b/c he feels he's grown up too fast by becoming a father too soon. He also suffers from mild depression and has medication he doesn't really take. He says every now and then he gets in "moods" but he's really ok. I really like this guy and I want to have him fun and not feel like he's doomed to have this boring "adult" life b/c he's a dad. Also, he doesn't drink since he's in AA. Yes, I know there's a lot going on but please don't just advise me to just dump him.. Encourage him to take his meds, they will help balance him out. Also encourage him to take a new point of view in life.. THERE'S ALWAYS time to have a childhood. Tell him his son needs to see the fun in life so suggest trips that they BOTH go on the swings. Source(s): I went through the same thing, and found at 25 that there was always time for it.. And having a kid is a GREAT excuse to have it! Growing up is hard....but the fun fact is if you have a kid you can act like a kid with them. He needs to take his meds. You may look into finding him another doctor, one who will expain to him why he needs them instead of just writing a script. Be supportive..do things with both of them.....He will see it is not the end of the world. Good luck to you both! he should feel the way he does. he is too young and he does have a tough road. the problem you face is that the more involved you get the more you will be in the same boat he is in. he is in a sinking ship and you are right there ready to get in it with him. My best friend became a father at the age of 22...he was dating a girl and she went off her birth control without telling him...and now four years later they are not together. He loves his son, pays child support and visits him as much as he can considering the fact that his son lives 400 miles away...but that's a whole other story. He has never taken drugs and rarely drinks, so he doesn't have any substance problems....he also has a great job and makes a lot of money. Despite all this he still goes into a depression now and then. He gets really down on himself and thinks that he's a failure. He has virtually no confidence when it comes to women or dating...and thinks they'll scramble once he tells them about himself. What you need to do is support this guy. Things are not easy for him. If he still cares immensely about you...that's all that matters and you should stick with him. Remember that single dad's are people too and he's only human. Show him how much you care about him and do activities with him that he likes to do in order to cheer him up. If he likes basketball, bring him to a basketball game and etc. Whatever you do, don't ignore him in a time of need...even if he pushes you away. He'll appreciate you even more when he gets better. You sound a great person and he is very lucky to have you. Best friend is a single dad |
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