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I am married but not happy have to go through restrictions and all. fel very low going in depression. help? |
I am married but not happy have to go through restrictions and all. fel very low going in depression. help? By your name sounds like this may have been an arranged Indian marriage?? Tell us more about the conditions. Is it your mother in law?? R u away from your family? Did you have to end your education?? What's the deal so we can help you?? I take it your spouse restricts what you can and can't do? Well, that is terrible. But you aren't alone. It happens a lot. To both men and women. You can get out. Look up shelters. You can go there temporarily and you'll be safe. They can't tell your spouse if you are there or not. Or you can get help from family or friends. You do not have to put up with this. Good luck. Hey girl I'm not sure how long you have been married, and how old you are, but let me tell you this is something that happens to people, irrespective of whether they are men or women. I don't know what kind of restrictions you are going through, but I can completely understand what you are going through. Let me tell you about a guy, who married the girl he loved. His family was not very supportive of the marriage, but finally relented as the guy was very adamant. Problems started even before marriage itself, with the girl demanding that the guy cut off all communication from his parents. The guy thought that things will change after marriage. But things only worsened after marriage. Every time he received a phone call from home, or he made a call home to speak to his parents, fights started in his family. She told him that he becomes 'mood off' whenever he speaks to his family. Gradually, it went into such a situation where she would arbitrarily say that he was in a bad mood, and accuse him of talking to his parents behind her back, and fight. The guy became so psyched up that a couple of times he tried to commit suicide, at time, he went into a fit of rage and started smashing up things. Finally realising that things will not work out like this, (by this time they had a baby), he stopped speaking to his parents altogether. He has a brother, with whom he was extremely close. He had to cut off all communications with him too. It has been more than a year and half since he has had any communicaiton with his parents. And his father is ailing from the heart. He does not have the freedom to listen to the music he wants, to buy and read the books he want (though he earns well for himself)... He does not have any contact with his friends; in short, he has become more like a sanyasi, who wears a tie and goes to work in a posh car. How has he survived through all this. Only the love for his child has kept him sane. I think she also realises this. One day she told him, "If it were not for the baby, I think you would have left me". It is true. Try to find friends on the net, who can understand what you feel. Form a support group. Communicate to each other. You will get a lot of relief just by talking to and opening up to people who understand what you feel. All the best. Hang in there. in India , life of a girl changes. she has to adjust herself so as to fit in the new family. there may be restrictions too. you will have to overcome all these things wiyh your love towards your husband and your new family. more you love your new family, more happiness you will get and the things will be more in your control. it is not only to you , it is common to all indian girls. |
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