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I have told my ex she needs to let me go but she can contact me to talk about her depression? |
I have written previous posts on here. My ended our relationship 2 mths ago as "her feelings had changed". It coincided with her being depressed and her dr saying she was. She said our relationship was the cause and ended things and didn't need help for her depression. I have wondered a lot if I should try and persuade her to try again. She got back into contact. I told her I wanted to be with her irrespective of her problems but she was hot and cold with me. I decided to say to her that if she is 100% sure us ending is for the best then I need to walk away. She said she was. She also denied that depression was an ongoing issue. She has been on prozac and seemed totally spaced out and smiley when we spoke. I said for her to call to talk about the depression if she needed but that it is better if we are largely out of touch. She agreed. She seems to be brushing her problems under the carpet. Not much more I can do?? Am I best now to not contact her at all and leave her?? Wow, you sound awesome! Often when a woman is depressed she makes rash decisions. Been there done that! This is tough but she is an adult, capable of LIVING with the choices that she has made....and she wants to do it w/o you dear. Find someone else & go knowing that you were there for her. Just wasn't meant to be. It's devastating watching someone you luv fall apart.... Leave her to it. It sounds like you have done everything you can and really been there for her. She has made it clear that she does not want to be with you so don't let her use you as an emotional crutch when she needs a shoulder to cry on - that is not fair on you and will only hold you back. I understand that of course, you will still worry about her but, you must move on, let her go and in time you will find someone you can build a future with. Good luck.x Yes, she has made it clear enough to you. You're a good guy for wanting to have been with her despite her depression. Most guys would've bailed. I know mine did! You did all you could. She knows that she can call you if she wants to. So now let her be and have her doctor help her, while you move on with your life. No, no, no. Bad idea. She needs professional help. And even if you were a psychiatrist, you couldn't treat your wife. Ex or not. You need total separation for her. She needs treatment for her condition and continued contact with you is not going to help her, it will only make things worse. If she doesn't want help/stopped going to the doctor--she may be looking at you to "save her." And you can't. You need to make a complete break. Not only for her but for yourself. You will not be able to move on if you have left yourself open for her to contact you whenever she feels like it. You offered her your help and she clearly doesn't want it. I know it is difficult to move on when you see the state she is in but you really must. She is under medication from her Doctor so is seeking help for her problems. She is are no longer your concern. She has made her feelings clear and you need to accept her decision and move on. Yes just leave the poor woman alone. No wonder she is depressed. She prbably doesn't know whether she is coming or going because you keep contacting her, and treating her emotions like a yoyo. When someone loves somebody very much and the other someone doesn't want to be with them, its like the whole world has ended, and for the person who has done that devastating thing to them to keep getting in contact is only adding salt to the wounds. Let her get on with her life now without you, and gradually day by day she will readjust, and start to heal. Sounds like if you stay in contact.... it will just make more problems for her. But! Yahoo is about the WORST place to go for answers. |
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