I can't get out of my depression since death of my father 1 yr ago...?

I have been on antidepressants ...but they just aren't working..I had never experienced losing anyone so close to me.......I feel
lost and sad and hopeless.

1. Have you found either a good therapist or a good support group? Cognitive therapy, or Rational-Emotive therapy, are the types that often work fastest and get right to the problem.

2. I have had good luck with anti-depressants, myself. You need to return to whoever is prescribing them and let him/her know they aren't helping. But...keep in mind, they aren't supposed to cure your depression in and of themselves. It should be used in a combination with therapy of some sort.

3. Try to find a group online, if you like Internet. Go to Yahoo Groups and search for groups of people in the same boat. Only people who have gone thru the same thing can really understand what it's like!

4. You CAN feel good again! But first you will have to sort through all your feelings associated with the loss of your dad.

I will send some healing thoughts out into the Universe for you, okay? :) xoxo

I think you have to look at it this way - what would your father want from you.Would he want you to be sad all the time, would he want you to be depressed and hopeless? NO I am sure he would not want that. Do what your Dad would want you to do. Get out of the house and live your life to the fullest!!! Thats what he would want from you. No Dad wants his child to be sad, lonely and hopeless. If necessary go get some counseling! Talk with your doc about some different pills but maybe your not depressed but grieving. There are grief couselors out there find one and get better -its what he would want you to do.
I'm sorry to hear about the death of your precious dad but antidepressants should be a "last" resort so I don't understand why a doctor would put you on them so soon after your father's death. Were you taking these meds before this happened? I think you should find a good grief support group to help you deal with your pain; also, if you feel you need it, contact a family therapist. Talk to other family members and close friends or your pastor. Losing someone you love can be devastating but you will get through this with time and patience. Be kind to yourself and don't think you have to be strong during this time in order to prove something to yourself or to anyone else. We all heal in our own way and in our own time. I wish you peace.
try to focus your mind on something else if you have friends you should hang out with them often and have fun so you wont be depressed my father died too so i know how it feels good luck i hope you get better
Hey, do not listen to this guy about marijuana. He probobly needs more help than u giving this kind of answears. After, THC you will get better but what tappens after you will stop to get stoned...u do not want to know. There is nothing worse that selfmedicating yourself with drugs. I suffer like u for 10 years in and out. The antidepresants do not work. The mood stabilzers like Lithium does for me and anticonvulsants like Lamictal. There are so many different combinations of drugs and you will find one. This is going to take time. There are Different types off depression, that responds to many different types of meds, not necessary antiadepresants. Talk to you doc, and remember go to the best psychiatrist possible, even it that will be expensive. The best are in University Hospitals. The guys with offices on street should be treated couse they do not know jack about the treatment. I am sure you will get better, sometimes it takes monts, sometimes years. You will get through this!!!!!
I lost my mum a year ago at the age of 20 and was absolutely distraught... you go through a lot of stages.. also been on antidepressants and they did not help me either.

i thought antidepressants made me worse actually and brought out this feeling of being lost at sea and threatening to harm myself to people which is reallly not the real me.

i think time is a healer.

to all the people who say "think what your dad would want" dont really grasp the complexity of the situation and the emotions you are experiencing.

sometimes you can feel mad at someone for not being here no more and sometimes you can feel like what they wud have wanted does not matter because ur the one who lives on and suffering.

try getting yourself a book that outlines the different steps you need to work through. i have used that... its not a miracle cure obviously but it gives you a framework... i think 1 yr is not very long and the average grieving for a super-close relative is 2 years and im at 18 months now... im better than i was 6 months ago but i will never ever be the same.
It is tough to lose someone that you cared so much about. Grief is something we all have to deal with at some point in our lives. It has been suggested that sitting down and writing a letter to your lost loved one, expressing all the unsaid issues and feelings that you had related to the person, does a lot to help resolve the grief that you feel. Often, our loss is felt more deeply because of things we wish we had said or done while the person was still with us. In other words, what you felt you should have said or done but didn't. I lost my wife 4 years ago and this act of writing a loving letter to her made all the difference in my life and allowed my grief to surface and become tangible and I could deal with it without feeling so sad. I hope this helps.