I think I may have an eating disorder, please help?

Please take the time to read this, I think I may need help.

I am almost 19 years old, 5'4, and I weigh 100 pounds.
The back story of my life is that when I was 16 my I overheard
my sister and mom talking about me saying I was gaining
too much weight. At that time I was 5'2 and 112 pounds.
Ever since that day I always look at myself in the mirror and
nit pick the areas I dislike. I feel like I have to keep a low
weight because my mom tells me what she weighed when
she was my age. I think shes too obsessed with her weight
and I have become obsessed also. I realized I eat a lot
some days and then all of the sudden I get sick to my stomach
when I try and eat. Food isn't appealing anymore. Not to mention I am very stressed at this point. Please if anyone has advice I would greatly appreciate it. I know I don't weigh enough and I want to fix it but I feel like its impossible.

Just to let you know I do not make myself throw up. I just sometimes cannot eat. My mind acts like its trained to know when to stop eating as much and my body listens even though I want to eat.

Its really a shame that at 112lbs, your mom was saying to needed to lose weight. If I was 112 lbs I'd be happy...but I'm double that.

It doesn't sound like an eatting disorder but it could develop into one. Right now it sounds like an acute case of obsessive complusive disorder. (Because you say you are obsessed with finding things wrong with your body...and want to stop but can't?)

I say, eat healthy things...try eatting literally, 6 SMALL meals a day, we're talking like cereal and an apple or banana for breakfast, about 2 hours later a snack, like a granola bar or 1 cookie...2 hours later a small lunch, like a salad or a sandwich, some natural fruit juice, and a peice of fruit, and 2 hours later another snack. like a handful of peanuts or something a little fattier then the rest of what you've eatten all day, then have a bigger supper about 2 hours after that, include protien (ie.meats or eggs)! and then 3hours before you goto bed have one final 'snack' like a peice of toast or something simple like that. Don't eat within 3 hours of going to bed...make sure you drink a lot of water, because it'll do good to flush out any chemicals and things like that in your body you really don't want there.

As far as the psychological part of it all, you might want to visit a therapist concerning your issues with your body image. There are plenty of places where you can get free, or close to free treatments if you live near a college or university. Steer clear of mirrors, and try talking to your mom about how it makes you feel when she says those things.

I'm glad I could be of help. I know what its like to be completely disgusted with your body. Mind you, I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum completely. Still, these are all basic things that I think will help anyone.

I'm glad you could have the courage to talk to those who have hurt you :) Report It

I went through the same thing before. What helped me was instead of just not eating, only eat healthy things, so you don't gain weight, but you're still healthy.

you should really look into professional help.

This might also help,....people with eating disorders often ruin different functions of their body. These can include your metabolism and reproductive functions.

You may not be able to have children if this continues....seek help from a doctor...not yahoo answers.

That sounds just a hair light for your hight and age. Don't be stressed. Try to stay between 100 and 110. Don't stress over it!

I would talk to someone that can help you, they might be able to help you talk to your mother about it, especially because it seems like she is apart of the problem. Good luck!

I think you should talk with your mom, and then seek help together. Your so tiny.. please start eating your beautiful!!

start doing excercise (not muyscle building) but general aerobic excersise and you will work back your apetite
same thing happended to me bu as i started to work out the need of food to pursue muscle/growth overtook my restraining mind
gud luk babe

dont follow your mom footsteps and i hate to say it cus its your mom but dont let her influence your decisions. its sounds like she might have issues with weight and they are rubbing off on you. you obviously know there is a problem thats why you are saying something about it and thats really good that you realized it now before it gets any worse.
you should talk to your mom and tell her that you heard her say that and that you are now concerned with your eating habits and you dont like it and wanna fix it. hopefully she'll help you out cus you definitely have to get on a more stable eating schedule. you know what to do to keep yourself healthy and just do it. even it you dont feel like eating, eat something small. stop this sickness now before it gets too late and you are throwing it back up. you have it in you.. be strong!

OK, first that just doesn't sound right I'm 11 4'9and 3/4in. I weigh 102. But my Doctor says it is fine I'm not overweight at all. So the best thing to do is ask your doctor if they say it is wrong it needs to change if they say its OK stay as you are.

healthy weight for an average sized (medium frame) adult female would be 100lbs for the first 5 ft. of height, then 5 lbs for each additional inch. Of course 5 or 10 lbs either side of that is no big deal. Talk to your doctor, he/she can point you in the right direction.

Hi,
I am 19 too. My weight was just fine 57 kg ( sorry i am from europe don't know much abt pounds n stuff) and i am 172 cm tall ( over 5'7 ft).
Due to stress and some external factors, i went into a depression and lost 10 kgs in few weeks. I still look like a skeleton. The best thing you are doing rite now is that you are concerned about it, and accepting that it is happening.
Well I would first of all advice you to talk to your sister and mother, coz talking helps a lot!!! Tell them how you felt when they told you are over weight and tell them your feelings and thoughts now.
And if you think it is way to serious then consult a psychologist, or atleast talk to your close friend. And when you know your brain is acting weird about eating, then just eat anything that you just love even if it is junk, atleast you are getting something in your tummy.. and eventually i think things will get better. Just remember to ASK for help and support!
Good Luck sweetie :)

The typical weight for your age and height should fall within the 110-120 pounds range. It is unhealthy for your mom and your sister to scrutinize your weight--at 5'2" and 112--that is a healthy weight. It would be great if you could gain at least five pounds. The best thing for you would be to eat small meals and gradually increase your intake. If this isn't working out, you should consider talking to someone like a friend or a therapist if you had to. Getting help isn't wrong, it just shows how human we are. Good for you for taking the first step--I wish you the best and embrace your body. Don't feel like you should change it because someone scrutinized you for it. As long as it keeps you alive and is healthy--you are doing a fabulous job. :)

Go see your doctor and ask for a referral to an eating disorder specialist.
You need professional help before this goes awry

I think you need to see a doctor... You recognize all that is making you sick- you know what it is. Sounds like your mom has but a bug in your head that tells you "You will dissappoint your mother if you eat anymore." You are now 19 years old and the bug hasnt left. It was very unfair of your mother to do this to you, but I dont think she meant to. I know where youre coming from as I get the same feeling on occasion. The only thing that will shake this bug is YOU. You just have to tell yourself that no matter how much you weigh (which is illogical to begin with because everyone who ever lived through the 90's and early millenium knows that muscle weighs more than fat, making "weight" irrelevant) you are still you and your mom (should) will love you anyway. If you dont think you can do this on your own (and you may be so damaged that you cant) you need to get some counceling... I know that makes you sound crazy if you see a shrink but you know better... and even if that was true... better crazy than dead. I am 5'5 and I wiegh something like 135, im not fat but im not a model either, Im only me. I can say however in accordance with you... you do not wiegh enough.

oh and the stress and all the other stuff youve got piled on top of not being healthy enough to keep your body (and MIND for that matter) will worsen this and make you sick... you need help very soon.

something similiar happened to my mom all her life she never weighed more than115 pds and her mom was jealous of her so she would make fun of her and my mom would be so sad and depressed and try to force eat to become bigger but she couldn't then she came to terms with it and began to love herself for her and came to realize she's perfect and gorgeous the way she is despite what her mother thought.honey maybe when you were young you were going through a growing spurt and it shocked your mom because she wasn't aware you were going through it that may be why you so called gained alot of weight, though you were small.just start loving yourself big or small get a weight your happy with i noticed you said u don't find food appealing what food did you find appealing before? slowly but gradually start eating them because they're good but don't force youself.start off with light delicious food that aren't heavy on your stomach but help you gain an appetite. and your still young for you to admit you may have a problem you have to feel strong honey,your inspiring i like that and you don't have a problem you just like a million other people value WRONG opinions and it's time to ignore your mama and make yourself happy.start gaining weight eat more healtily though start off with light tasty food don't force feed but eat until your satisfied,when you gain you appetite back then indulge in heavy food.remember do this for you eat when you want when your happy and hungry don't starve yourself.

It sounds like you may have a disorder. I think it was wrong of your mother to say your gaining weight to fast. Now you are a very tiny person. And thats not so healthy. You should see a doctor and get some blood tests to make sure you are getting enough of what your body needs. It could kill you if you arent. It may even make it possible for you to concieve later on in life. Weight is not as imortant as you may think. Its better to be heathy and fat that unhealthy and skinny. Get some help girly!

My mom was is like that to and so I know how you feel but just remember you're not her. Just concentrate on keeping a good weight by eating balanced meals and instead of eating alot and then stopping try to eat routinely.
good luck

aint no gyneacologist,,better consult a doctor.