My friend has an eating disorder, how do i confront her about it?

I'm positive she has an eating disorder. She used to be over weight, and she lost about 60 pounds, but now i think she's getting too skinny. She's constantly obsessing over calories and exercising. And she still says "ugh I'm still fat" when she's about 5'7 and is 120 pounds. That sounds kinda normal, but she just isn't build that way. she doesn't look like she fits her body.
And a way to tell if someone has an eating disorder is if theyre mind is always on food, and hers is. She's always thinking of what she's going to eat so she wont get fat. It's scary.
And also, if she eats something that's remotely fattening, she makes me eat the same amount she did, and if i don't she throws a fit and yells "ARE YOU ANOREXIC? YOU GUYS THINK I AM BUT I THINK YOU ARE NOW!"
idk, it's scary. How do i confront her about it without hurting feelings or making her resent me?

I tell her that she's scaring me all the time, and i do say "dude, stop it" but.. shes fixated on loosing more weight, and i know 120 is normal but again, she just isn't build that way. it doesnt look right, she looks waay too skinny. She eats the very minimum

First, you should let her know that you value your friendship and you will always be her friend, no matter what. You should tell her that while you were originaly happy that she was taking control of her health, it now seems that she has gone beyond that point and doesn't know when/how to stop. Her extreme attitude towards food is leading her in a bad direction and you want her to know that she has your support. She will most likely try to deny this or get angry that you are confronting her about it, so let her know again that you care about her and her health and want to help her. Is there any way you could talk to her parents about this? I don't know how old she is, but if she still lives with her parents, maybe they can have a talk with her also, but you might want to tell them not to mention your name, or that you told them.

This website might have more advice and ways you can help.
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/eating_...

if she's a true friend, she will talk to you! i've been faced with the same thing, and all i did was talk to her. 1 to 1. She got help. and now she's healthy and thanks me a lot for it. Don't be afraid, what's the worst she can do? You wont regret it, i can promise you that.

I'm not sure what I would actually do, but what I think what you should do in a situation like that is tell her you acknowledge that it is her body and she can do whatever she likes, letting her know you know you can't control her, but then tell her what you feel about how she is acting and tell her truthfully how she looks to you like she doesn't fit her body. I'm only going off of what I personally think I would do, and I'm not the most social person, but I hope this helps in some way.

I'm 5'8 and 120 pounds, its normal. Just be like, "Dude, stop it."

I had a friend like that. It was hard to tell her that she was beautiful the way she was. She never believed me, she said she wouldnt stop losing weight until she is 'perfect' like the models. But models arnt perfect, they honestly look like crap in real life.

Just keep teling your friend that she is pretty the way she is, she doesnt need to obsess about her food intake. If she keeps losing weight and eating the way she does, i would honestly tell a doctor. because too much weight loss can really hurt you.

Hope i helped. =D

If you are a true friend you will tell her how you feel and take the time to listen to how she feels.Some people cant see themselves how others do."You are on the outside looking in!"Get her to see that. Both need to look at the whole picture,( both sides) if she was over weight she could be scared she could get fat again if she stopped counting calories that's why food is always on her mind.

Give her examples. I hope it helps!!!

it would take a lot of courage, but you need to tell her to see a therapist and until she does you don't want to be her friend anymore. Sounds like your friend isn't there and you are trying to have a relationship with a disease which is not possible.

You are there for her, but only if she seeks help.

shes developed a compulsion its not technically an eating disorder her compulsion just happens to be about food and its not something thats gonna go away if you confront her about it she could realize ie herself and still not be able to stop