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My best friend is suffering from an eating disorder?

Ok, my friend got diagnosed with an eating disorder about 9 months ago (but she had been showing signs for years)she started going to an organisation that helps and supports people with eating disorders but only went for a bit and has now stopped. I know it will take years for her to fully recover and that it might not go away fully and that she has to make all the decisions herself and I never bring up the eating disorder in less she wants to talk about it (and she knows she can whenever) and I never to comment on her eating but it feels as though she may never get better and she seems to of changed a lot which I sure she has a bit but I am at a loss of how to support her and what to do next, I know I can鈥檛 force her to go anything but I was just wondering if anyone else had any experiences of a friend suffering from an eating disorder and how they coped and helped their friend.
Thanks :-)

I am 39 years old and have battled an eating disorder for 20 years. The worst thing any one can do is tell your friend "just eat" (thank God you do not do that to your friend) because it is not that simple, if it was there would be anorexia.There are a lot of complications that develop from eating disorders like,heart problems, bone problems, vision complications,intestinal complications-all of these can be permanent. I had to apply for disability because my body is so broken because all the years of starvation. All you can do is be there to support your friend, listen to her and to do it without any strings attatched. The reality of it is that the disease never goes away, it only moves out for a little while and moves back in whenever it pleases. I have managed to find a compromise for my little demon in my head-I still have to let it live there but I do not have to let it run my life. There are alot of books and information on the internet about being a support person for some one with an eating disorder. Just be there as much as you can and if your friend gets worse, you will know in your gut when to step in and get medical attention, do observe her behavior and weight(keep it to yourself) to notice if she is getting worse. The most important thing of all is that you let her know that you love her and make her feel like a worthwhile human being. Just keep in mind that you cannot be responsible for what or when she eats, it will rip your heart to shreds.

the most important thing is to encourage her to eat more without being rude or accusing.
always be there for her and do whatever you can to not treat her differently because of it. be her brace-she's gonna need it. and if she gets mad stay there anyway-she will thank you, my friend did.

~Ash~

Find out facts about her eating disorder and tell her all the bad things she is doing to her body
then find out support groups and mention them to her maybe take her to one
Dont be pushy just be nice to her and support her !
hope i helped

just tell her to eat more stuff and if she doesnt. its her problem. and she will face the consequence when she is older. and will suffer from brittle bone and having no babies.

umm, was she anorexic or obeise?

anorexic- tell hers shes completely underweight and will die soon if she doesnt eat . and will be sick.(say die in better words though) also get her to eat , have a meal out with her and eat your all up and say wasting , make her feel bad . and say phrases like . gosh your gonna ent up proper anorexic And will have to go into a home. FORCE her to EAT!!

obeise- tell her, to get down on her eating dont say your fat say , i know i eat junk but also i eat quite healthy and take vitamins , also say . your not fat, but you might have more than 50% fat in her body! BAD!

Okay, eating disorders are ALL in the mind. once someone is commited to things such as eating disorders, its a hard thing to get out of, and takes alot of convincing to make someone stop something that they are happy with doing. As a person along side a close person going through this, i'd admit, as someone thats gone through it that theres not alot that you can do. Its sometimes nice to talk to someone about it, so always be there for your friend, but dont pressure her into talking about it, what may relieve her is if you talk to her about the reasons why she does it, but do not nag her to get help, this is not something that she will be not be looking for in a friend.

It's hard to talk to people that do not understand what it is that they are going through as the other person will NEVER understand what its like. All i can say, i suppose is give her time, may be hard to sit and watch this happen, but its only her that can turn it around, and im sure she will when she's ready. When the time is right, take her out for a evening meal, i've always liked doing that with my friends, it encourages eating more with people around you.


best of luck to your friend,
i feel for her &understand how hard it is
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My friend kinda had that
and she just wouldnt eat
and she wouldnt admit to having a disorder
and i found myself buying lal her fav things just so i can see her eat
she gets really annoyed with me but if you havnt eaten/drunk anything all day you will feel ill
so my money is going down from spending it on her too get her too eat
i sometimes worry about her too
but maybe its cause she just split up with her boyfriend and is completley heartbroken
but its still stupid that she wont eat

so thats how im helping her lol :)

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