Help me, please, eating disorder problems!?

I'm so sorry to bother you all with this silly question, but i need someones help!
I am currently suffering with the eating disorder Bulimia, and having a really bad time.
i really want to open up to my counsellor, and tell her how i feel, but i'm finding it really hard to trust anyone.
she is a great counsellor( ihave had 8 other counsellors who i refused to open up to), but i just feel so embarassed and ashamed about having this eatind disorder!

How can i open up to her, coz i REALLY want to get better

Also was wondering if someone can give me some words of wisdom, and encouragement, as i'm finding recovery tough!!!

thanks Gemini. i am over 16 (in fact i am 28!), so family members knowing about my secret isnt a concern!

Admitting you have a problem and wanting to get better are two massive steps in the right direction hun. Eating disorders are very hard to deal with. I have anorexia so I know all too well, but the weight of the problems on your shoulders will be halved when you finally offload onto your counsellor.

Start off by maybe telling her small things, and then gradually building up. Sometimes it's easier to do that than to go in head first.

Good luck hun.

xx

hey you know what i did when i was in your position?i wrote it all down and left the letter with my counsellor at the end of the session..honey if you really want to get better than your gonna have to be truthfull..part of the eating disorder is secrecy so when you open up and tell the truth your part of the way there...come on its all down to you no angel or counsellor can make you better only you can and the way to get the ball rolling is by speaking your truth.
good luck.

Sometimes when you go to talk about a problem if feels uncomfortable as the issue suddenly feels stupid, embarrassing or uneasy to explain.

The key is not to focus to much on it, but talk about the typical feelings you may encounter on am average day.

Example:
What feelings lead you to binge?
Why do you then purge? is it feelings of guilt etc. ?
Why do you feel guilty?
Can you identify anything in your past that may have lead to you developing an eating disorder?

I normally find that when people start at "the beginning" of their story, they find it easier to talk about and explain their problems.

Just remember not put pressure on yourself, you have done a good thing in seeking help.

you cant be embarrassed with your counsellor.

i know that sounds silly, but seriously, its like a mental block you just have to deal with. take a deep breath when youre in a session, and just spill. youll feel a lot better for it.

if you think about it too much youll never talk to her.

there is nothing you can say to her that she will not have heard before.
and shes there for you to talk about having an eating disorder, so dont feel ashamed!

good luck!

This is a serious problem, and you can't keep it from your counselor. First, you just need to explain how you've been feeling, and just admit to her you have bulimia. She will not be upset with you! She probably has a lot of experience is she has this job, she knows how to help you!
You should also tell her it was hard for you to tell her, because you feel ashamed.
I hope you recover!
Good Luck!
xo Annie

you have to be honest with your counselor if you want honest help. there is no other way. she is there to help you, but can only do so if you open up. good luck with your therapy. there is no "quick fix", so it will be a rough road. just take it one day at a time. if you need others to talk to, im sure there are support groups in your community or even online where you could remain anonymous. best of luck to you. fight to get yourself better.

first of all well done for admitting you have a problem, all you need to do now is tell your councellor as admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery, she will be able to help you. good luck i hope things go well for you

juz love yourself as everybody around love u...

write it all down in a letter and let her read it.

I wish you the best! You can and will beat this! I suffered from eating disorders throughout my teen years. When I was in my early teens, I didn't even realize that I had an eating disorder. I was obsessed with food and being thin. I was so anal about counting calories and trying to eat as less as possible. I would frequently say "My diet starts tomorrow" My friend and I would always screw up on our ridiculous diets and pig out....then vow the next day to stick to the diet.

I missed out my youth! Food should be enjoyable and fun....However one should not take it to the extreme. There is a happy medium.

In my later years, I finally taught myself to throw up. I had a bucket that I would puke in.

I am completely fine now!! I just realized that I can still enjoy food and be thin. I exercise and eat healthy, but I still eat junk food. I actually eat whatever the hell I want!! After doing this for a long time, my body naturally doesn't want anymore food when I am full. I never end up eating to much because I naturally get sick of food at a certain point.

Stop throwing up immediately. Just trust that you won't get fat! My secret is that I got my metabolism back. When you try to limit food intake and count calories, your body thinks it is starving so it tries to conserve as much fat as possible......Then you don't burn as many calories. Same thing when you are bulemic. Your body thinks you are starving when all the food is emptied out of your stomach. It tries really hard to store the fat in the food you eat.

Just stop throwing up.....Just stop caring about being fat. DO NOT GO ON A DIET. Diets are simply unhealthy.....Unless you are obese.....However, if you are at a healthy weight, dieting will make you have more eating disorder problem

I cured my disorder from eating whatever the hell I want whenever I want.....and not caring how "fat" I got.

I am 5'3'' and I weigh about 120 lbs. I eat whatever I want...chinese food, lobster, fried fish, burgers, french fries, milkshakes

I never ever throw up anymore.

well you are very courageous to post this question and seek help first of all to for that I give you credit straight away.You must have some faith that you will grow out of this disorder because I can tell you speak with confidence.
You shouldn't be embarrassed because saying it is the hardest part, you will be pleased that you opened up once you get the advice and support in return.
Believe me I have never opened up to anyone about my true feelings about my self image and the other day I did to a friend .Saying it was the hardest part but then after I said it I felt liberated- still not completely happy with my self image but more free.When you open up about the root cause of the problem that you are having you will find it much easier to get better.
Also you are not the only one to have an eating disorder.You may find it easier to talk to someone who can actually relate to your problem, like someone who has actually been through what you have been through.
You need to know who you can trust so the person wont use your weaknesses against you so be streetwise.
I will pray for you and, I wish you all the best, Know that you are a BEAUTIFUL PERSON regardless of the outside appearance and look forward to the future, even when the present seems sour.BEST WISHES.

Hi,
This is not a bad question atall and you certain don't need to apologise for posting it. This is what the forum is here for, I have seen worse question which have been deleted due to it.

It depends on your age, if you are over 16, the counsellor will not report any information back to anyone. So if you are concerned about various family members knowing, I doubt much of it if she ensures information is treated in confidence.

You should be able to tell her your issues with eating, I'm sure there are other people she has discussions with who have far worse issues, this is what the counsellor is there for.

Perhaps if you posted some information on the eating disorder or addictions on here, then members could answer, if you are comfortable with doing it.

Maybe is you knew that you could lose your teeth as a result, it would help you stop. You could end up with a partial denture! I used to work in an oral surgeon's office and we had a patient who was in her early 20's and the dentist had to remove 5 of her front teeth because they were all ruined from acid errosion. It was so sad. She kept her hand over her mouth when she came in for the consultation and would not smile. Then on surgery day, she had the teeth removed and they placed in her partial denture. Now she really was not smiling. She now mad metal clips that you could see when she smiled from the partial denture. It was very sad...she was a pretty girl too.

I myself used to be Bulimic for about 15 years but this cured me fast!!! I really treasure my teeth and would be mordified if I had to wear a partial denture!