Eating disorder.. how do i get through to her?

my friend has an eating disorder, and i really need some advice on how to help her get back on a healthy diet. she's very stubborn, and everything i've tried already doesnt work...

It's hard to talk with someone with a eating disorder . Because they don't see what we see. they see the glass half empty and you and I see it half full. I would find a health book and look up what food is for and why we need it. I'm sorry but you didn't say what kind of disorder. there are several eating disorders . bulimia, anorexia , gorging and probably a whole lot more . those are the ones I'm familiar with. Now this is what I understand about a eating disorder and this will cover all that I mentioned above. We sometimes feel we don't have any control of our lives but there is one thing we do have control of and that is our weight and our food. There are some people who will stuff there emotional pain , feelings and maybe some type of trauma from there past with food. usually those are bulimic and the gorgers . what your friend will have to do is talk with a eating disorder specialist because this is a decease and not something that you or I are trained to guide her to help her understand . The best thing you can say to her is I love you and you need help, If she is starving her self then her liver will start shutting down , she could have heart failer, her kidneys will stop working and she could possibly die depending on how far along she is with the decease. Just be there for her and tell her you care about her.

www.somethingfishy.org

That's a great site for friends/family/loved ones of people with eating disorders. There's lots of advice and great forums with really helpful people who can give you all the answers you need.

And really, "stubborn" isn't a fair word. I know it can be frustrating to see your friend hurting herself, but it's a legitimate mental illness and eating/not eating, binging and purging/not binging and purging isn't a matter of choice. The best thing you can do is be patient and supportive.

I hope everything goes well.

EDIT: Don't listen to these other people. Unless it gets seriously life-threatening, do NOT tell her parents. If you break her confidence and force her into a confrontational situation, it will only make matters worse.

tell her
" did you know in africa they don't have food to eat? And you are over here COMPLAINING about food?
Love yourself , don't judge you with others, everyone is unique in their kind of way."
tell her that i have been there before and getting thinner and skinnier doent make me happier.
Once i was skinny and thin
my habit of dieting was a habit
and when i was skinny
i didn't stop dieting , so i got even skinnier
until it was dangerous
and i almost died
tell her that i didn't think that i could of died, i didn't even thik i was anorexic
but the food restricting got me here. well
talk to her and tall her that shes beautiful
if that doesnt work
take her to movies with queen lataifah in them
that will make her feel better.
girls come in all diffrent sizes
if the whole world had one size, there wouldn't be any size numbers on pants and there isn't the fun of being unique anymore.Hope you ccan talk to her
company her
if she doesnt listen , this is a sign that she feels alone
tell her you are always there for her to talk to once anorexia takes over her life( like it did to me, i never thought that anorexia could of from the age of 9, now im 14). well hop yoou great luck

What does she have?
and you need to talk to her parents or yours... or a teacher or counselor. Somebody needs to get through to her! That is really all you can do, she probably won't listen to you no offense, but you said she was stubborn. You need to get her help by telling an authority figure. The less drama about it though, the better. (: good luck, sorry abotu your friend.

What ed does she have?
Theres really nothing much you can do. All you can do is give her support. It will be her desion if she want to get help. DONT tell her parents or a teacher. This can only make matters worse for her and can acttually cause her to get worse. Also you will break her trust and your friendship will be ruined.
If you have any other questiongs feel free to email me. I have bulimia.

you need to tell her parents. im 14 so im not some like person who doesnt know what they are talking about, because i assume you are younger like me. your friend may be angry at you at first for telling, but in the end she wont be angry and she will realize you were only trying to help her out.

good luck

you cant really get through to her she has to realise it herself before she can get better. just make sure she knows your there for her. if you try and push her to eat it will make her more determind. hope this helps and good luck:)

tell her parents or parent if they are divorced because this is very serious and if it goes untreated she could eventually die from it. good luck!!!