I'm stuck im best friend has an eating disorder, she makes herself throw up after she eats!!!! how can i help?

she has a very stresfull life she doesn't get very good grades! her Bf always break up w/ her cuz she wnt put out i hate seeing her like this it's KILLING ME!! i told her my life has been wors than ures u wer't RAPED. but if u don't STOP i'm gonna start doing that **** 2 i deffinitly have guy problems also w/ mai bf idk wat 2 do for her anyone help me PLEASE!!!!!!!!!

Your friend has a serious, potentially deadly illness. You can't stop her, and you can't be her therapist. She badly needs professional help. The earlier bulemia is treated, the better. First of all, if her parents don't know, you need to tell them. This isn't the kind of a secret friends keep for friends. Tell them that you talked to people on the Web and that she needs to see a psychiatrist right away. She needs to be talking to a professional and not dumping all her problems on you. You're getting overwhelmed! It wouldn't hurt if you had someone to talk to, also. That rape business is serious stuff. You need to take care of yourself, first, and you need to tell your friend that you can't help her and that she needs to see a Dr. You care for her and want to help her, but you're just not qualified to do so. She probably doesn't want to hear that, but, believe me, you'll be helping her in the long run. She can't use you as her therapist or Dr.; she needs to get a Dr. (she should start with a psychiatrist, MD, and may need a therapist, too). You know what? My concern is for you. You need to take care of yourself (I know I'm repeating myself, but it's important). Please, hon, find someone professional to talk with, and do all you can to see that your friend does, too. Source(s): Psychiatric nurse for ten years, both on inpatient units and working in emergency rooms working with people in crisis.

talk with her and tell her parents someone that cares for her.
you havee to seek profesional help it is a actual disease
First of all, the answer is not to join her although you care for her very much. Purging is an actual illness and she is probably going to require professional help. It has nothing to do with who has more stress in their life. It's an illness. She will probably need therapy, in patient care and maybe even medication to get back to her old self. She or you needs to tell an adult that you can trust. A parent, a teacher, but someone and now. If she won't do it, you have to. People die from this. Please seek help right away. Good luck.
first you should try talking to her about it yourself. just be calm and kind, and just let her know youve noticed shes been doing this. if she admits she has an eating disorder, then try and find out why she does it and what you can do to help her stop. if she doesnt admit it or gets angry at you, its time to let an adult know so that she can get professional help. she may get upset at you for doing this, especially since you say her life is very stressful and bad, but it is for the better in the end. you could end up saving her life. please get help for her she has a serious disease.
Hi there,

I am really sorry to hear of all this. You can't take on her problems, because it is evident that you are not ok yourself girl. I don't mean you should neglect your friend but you can't help her when you are feeling angry at the world and possibily yourself.

Did you seek help for what's happened to you? I think you should, you are clearly in pain, even if you choose to deny it. I understand how opening up about rape would be extremely difficult but their are counsellors experienced in this area. Counselling can seen very daunting, believe me i know but once you start to open up and realise they aren't there to hurt you more, you will feel better. I was sexual abused once, so i know the feelings related to some extent.

In all honesty do you think shouting at your friend helped her? She already probably has a low self esteem and making out that her pain is less significant than yours probably made her go straight to the fridge, binge and puke. I know.. I have had Bulimia for 3 years, currently in recovery. This is not your fault though..you are not well yourself and you need help. So get that before trying to stop her illness...and that's what it is. She needs help too from a professional as she is usuing unhealthy coping mechanisms.

You sound like someone who actually does really care for her friend but it's just adding to your own underlying pain at the moment, which you need help with. Please confide in someone you trust and get some help. You don't wanna live with the constant pain that sexual abuse can inflict. You friend is not trying to hurt you, she's trying to hurt herself and she can't just stop..she needs help too.

Best of luck, i feel for you both

xxx