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How do you tell your family that you have an eating disorder?



I am just entering high school and there are so many stresses and pressures and I am struggling with Bulimia. I am trying to get through it and I just wanted to know what the best way to tell my family/friends would be. I don't want them to freak out when I tell them I just want them to understand that I need help. What should I do?

The best way is to be honest. If you try to wiggle around the truth, then chances are you are going to end up not telling them at all. Figure out what you are going to say before hand, and then you will feel better as you are telling them. And remember, your faimly will always love you no mater what you do.
throw caution to the wind and tell them asap. ok you'll be find
I am sorry that you are suffering. What you are experiencing is a very dangerous illness and yes telling your parents may upset them at first (because I am assuming they care for you) but it needs to happen. If it is too intimidating to talk to your parents in person, try writing a letter to them so that you may give them time to digest the issue and develop a plan to assist you with treating the bulimia. This is a family issue not just your issue (you will understand more about this later as you learn about bulimia) and they may already be aware of the bulimia on some level. Writing a letter may avoid any initial unpleasant reactions from your parents if that is what you are afraid of, sometimes adults, out of caring for you, will react with anger when they really are just "scared" and this causes teens to feel as though their is something "wrong" with them. If you are already predicting that your parents may react a certain way, bring that to their attention in the letter to help them know how their behavior affects your feelings. You cannot go through this alone. Good luck!
Mental Health professional
I would suggest you sit down with them as a group. Explain your situation and ask them for their support and understanding. You might want to take a look at the AA 12 step program. Basically you need to understand that you are powerless over this and need to turn your recovery over to a higher being (of your choice). I think you will be amazed at the support you will receive. I have a feeling your revelation will not come as as surprise to them, but will instead open the door for them to participate in your recovery. Good luck!
Personal experience with a diseaase I had no power over...alcoholism.
I think they suspect it already. You might want to, like tomorrow, while doing something like putting groceries away or helping your mom in the kitchen, without eye contact casually say something like: You know, Mom, I am getting kinda tired of just "renting" this food. I don't know if you know it, but I have been forcing myself to throw up, and I have been doing it for a while.

At that point, she will probably stop what she is doing, and you will find yourself in eye contact with her. That is the time to begin the serious talk.

Your parent/s should also go to at least some of the sessions with you, to ferret out what subtle messages you have been getting through them about your body image, and so the whole family can be on the same page as far as the strategy you develop to overcome this disgusting and dangerous syndrome.
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