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How should I tell my mom I have Binge Eating Disorder? |
I tried telling her a few times before, but she just thinks I am overeacting. My disorder is driving me crazy, all I think about is food and calories and its a terrible cycle for I binge every second day. I'm only 13! I don't want this to take over my life but it already has. I want help so badly but my mom does not seem to grasp the fact that I actually have a mental problem. Any tips on how to help her face the facts? Any answers would be GREATLY AND UTTERLY appreciated. Thank you. The first thing we need to do is sit down with her and present the facts to her. Print out a few facts about the disorder and show them to her. Before you start talking, respectfully tell her that you understand you are young - but that you need to share something with her that concerns you. Tell her that 'All you're asking her to do is listen, and look at the information.' After she's become involved, calmly tell her about your symptoms. Tell her how you feel, and tell her you are scared. If all goes well, hopefully she will at least be willing to take you to the doctor and maybe if you explain it to a professional they can also help. If this does not go well, if she will not listen - Go to your school counselor. Even if you don't like them, they should be obligated to do something, or at least give you more information or help. If there is even just a nice teacher you can talk to, speak to them also. Keep in mind what you have is a disease. This is not your fault! You are very mature, and you can face anything if you put your mind to it. I'm rooting for you! as someone who has battled an ED for several years, here is my advice: your mom is most likely in denial. maybe you should make an appt with your dr and tell him/her what you are going through. if he/she thinks you do have a problem then have your mom come to an appt with you so you call all speak together. explain to your mom that you really need her support and understanding. do you have someone else who you can trust that you can talk to? and that can go with you to meet with your doctor? you do not have a mental problem, you have a disease/illness. you should also see a psychiatrist or counsellor as well as a dietitian/nutritionist to set up a healthy meal plan for you to get your eating back on track. it is best to start dealing with this asap so it doesn't take over your life. i wish you all the best! Oh sweetie...can you talk to your father or your doctor or an aunt or a trusted teacher or counselor? I'm sure there are hotlines out there but you must, must get help. I'm so sorry that your mom doesn't see that you have a problem but sometimes, it's difficult for us moms to see that our children aren't perfect. Sometimes parents think that because their child has a problem, it's their fault. It's nobody's fault. As people answer this question, you might want to show her that you are asking for help. Please don't stop asking for help. www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/eati... You binge every second day? Do you ever purge? I have a strange thought here, bare with me... do you eat every day, you know, a few regular meals? I mean, if you only eat every other day, that could be causing your mental screws to loosen a little. If your mom doesn't understand, find other people, just like the other answerer told you. Can you tell me why you're so obsessed with calories and food? Could it be that you're not getting some emotional need fulfilled, and you're using food to get _something_? I don't mean to be all pop-psychology on ya, but needs is needs. As for the calories, weight, etc., you're 13. Your body is messed up, but that's by design. If I could tell myself something at 13, I'd say, "Work out every day, eat reasonable meals, and find a cause to distract yourself from... yourself." Teenagers are notoriously self-absorbed... and most of them grow out of it, eventually. Focusing too much inwardly just leads to a lot of second-guessing. So work to grow out of it as soon as possible. Find a constructive hobby, volunteer, get a job, something that lets you do something to better humankind in some way. And for the record, considering how many adults come on here with crappy grammar and spelling, that a 13-year-old should have it so together mentally (even though you feel crazy) is awesome. As long as you question your sanity, you still have it. Hope that helps. |
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