Eating disorder/ what to say?

i love my father more then i can explain and we have a great relationship except for 1 major issue..he is constantly teasing me about my weight. i was chubby when i was younger and he used to tolerate and even join in when my cousins called me "basketball" but then i got older and naturally slimmed down but he kept up his rude/ mean comments and it turned into an eating disorder..it was to the point where i was hosptialized for a little bit and he just chalks it up to me being over sensitive and not being able to handle a joke. what can i say to him to make him realize that its his comments that trigger these behaviors in me? ive tried to talk to him about it and so has my step mom and my younger sister and no one can get through to him. should i see a counselor and have them talk to him? i dont know what to do but i dont want to go back to the way i used to be!! no rude comments please

I had this same problem with my mother and it still continues. I have dealt with eating disorders and the health issues that have resulted from them for years.

Nothing I have ever said to Mom stops her. She makes rude comments about me and everyone else. I finally have started giving her a taste of her own medicine. It's not the right option, but it's the only one that seems to shut her up.

People like her and your dad feel superior when they are putting down others. Little do they know that it only shows how inept and inferior they really are. They try to build up their self-esteem by tearing you down.

I think you should see a counselor. He or she can help you formulate a plan of action with your dad, but you need to be prepared to put some distance between the two of you for awhile if necessary.

You don't say how old you are. Are you living at home? Are you old enough to be out on your own?

I don't usually advise a child to break ties with a parent, but I have had enough experience with my mom on this issue to know that the parent is not going to change. There is a sense of self-importance that they achieve by belittling their off-spring. It is a form of mental cruelty and it makes them feel good.

One thing you do have to learn to do is to not let it get to you. You are feeding the sick pleasure your father gets from belittling you. Next time he makes a comment about your weight try saying , in a very kind way, "Dad, I appreciate your concern for my health, and I want you to know that I am concerned about yours also. You could stand to lose a couple pounds yourself. Why don't we talk about your diet?"

Keep repeating it every time until he gets the picture.

Counselor would work.. My cousin is in the same-ish situation. My mom's mom calls her fat ***, cow, etc.. She's 18 and has a learning disorder. It can really screw someone up.
yer dad should be more helpful to you instead of teasingly. kinda effed up. but try talking to him just be like "dad yer hurting me".
What you do, you do for you.

You are smarter than you think here.

Realizing what triggers you to harm yourself in the way you eat is really all you need to make it all work for you. You can not change him. While you may be able to confront him and be honest with him like you were here you have to accpet that his old habits may be hard to break. But what you do know is what he does and you are prepared for it.

What you do and how you do should be done for you and not because of the way someone treats you. Consider yourself better than that and don't let his remarks bring you down. Because that is what you are doing.

Be a better person for you and do what is good for you and make a fool of him. :)

Think about it.
My dad is exactly the same way. the only thing i've done was stuck up for myself, and not take him serious. I've learned to let go of ignorant and rude people in my life. Why take things to the heart said by someone who picks on you because he isn't happy with himself? Just ignore that. why hurt yourself because of things people say. thats makes u weak and useless. stay strong and move on. i would never hurt myself because of all the things my family and friends have said. because you cant judge someone knowing your hands are not clean. so knowing that a bout someone, why take that serious. Your better than that!
the thing is honey, you CAN'T live with negative people saying things like that. words have a huge effect on us. you must tell him that anytime he says something like that you will leave. then do it. mean it and do it.