My girlfriend has fibroids. What to do?

She is scheduled for a hysterectomy in November. Between now, and then I don鈥檛 know if I can hold out. She complains of pain daily. When she is in pain she lashes out at me (screams and hits things).

We have been living together for over three years. She has been verbally abusive, and demonstrating a great deal of road rage. This abusive temper comes and goes. Sometimes I don鈥檛 see it for 6 months, then suddenly it returns. It increased say three-fold since about May. I am at my wits end. My health has turned bad since about May. My blood pressure, is averaging is 180/100. Normal for me is about 130/70. Recently I get bad heart-burn from eating spicy food, have been suffering from diarrhea, indigestion, insomnia, ear infections., bleeding from my ear. Until recenlty, I was in very excellent health! Now I see a doctor almost every week!

Is my health due to her hot temper?
Will this end after her hysterectomy?

Everyone is different, but I had fibroids and never acted like that before my hysterectomy. It's possible she reacts differently to pain - I know it can get old, and hormones may be coming into play. Urge her to discuss it with her gyn. or see if she can get some counseling to help her cope with it.

As far as your symptoms, it sounds like a reaction to the stress. What does your doctor say about it? You might try taking a few minutes each day to thoroughly relax yourself in whatever way that works. It's hard on the body to be stressed so much all the time.

Good luck with all of this, and hopefully when the hysterectomy is done, things will improve with your girlfrined. You still need to work on your stress-reaction and see if you can find a better way to relieve it.

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Your girlfriend's abusive temper doesn't have anything to do with fibroids or a hysterectomy.

It sounds like she might have some "anger management" issues from some unresolved trauma in her childhood.

It's not her hot temper that's causing your health problems... it's your REACTION to it. I've heard some people described as "spongy" -- meaning they absorb anger hurled toward them.

Maybe that's you.

Try to, when she's railing, picture a place where you feel safe and comfortable. That will help you take a step back from her rage. If you can do that mentally, your body will thank you.

All emotions originate and are "stored" in the body. It sounds weird, I know, but it's really true. If you don't take the time to investigate the feelings you're ignoring, your body will get your attention... with GI trouble, insomnia, etc.

I'd strongly recommend counseling for the two of you.

Good luck!!
answer to both might be yes.
I don't have fibroids, but I do have other female conditions that cause excrutiating pain, and the doctors have done NOTHING for me over the past two years except give me meds. That is not what I want and sometimes they don't help and I have terrible pain. I know that not purposely but it happens that I lash out on my husband and it is usually due to my stress, I know its not his fault, but he is the only one there. I know it would help if I had some females or family members around to talk to but I don't. If this happens again, suggest that maybe she call a friend or family member. Also getting outside sometimes helps. Sorry about her and you. Hope it all works out.