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I have genital herpes, should I tell every new partner? |
If I have no symptoms at the moment, am fairly sure there is no shedding and always use a condom for any sexual activity including oral, and take Valtrex as a preventive measure. I also abstane completely during outbreaks. I have read that under the above conditions it would be difficult for me to pass it on to a female. And I have also read that with proper management, dicordant couples can coexist without coinfection if every precautions are taken. In that case, would it be disshonest not to tell my new partner right away? I feel that telling her at the beginning might scare her off for nothing, something that could develop in a long lasting relationship and maybe marriage? Any one out there that the male has herpes but his girlfriend never caught it from him using precautions? I feel very bad and scared about my future, this is bad timing as I am now 37 and am starting to think about starting a familly...;( A lot of people assume if they take certain precautions that they will not be able to spread genital herpes. That's NOT true. I contracted genital herpes 6 years ago from a guy I had sex with who was showing NO symptoms of the virus (he also failed to mention that he had the virus). I only had sex with him ONE time and I got the virus from him. I also passed it to my fiance (boyfriend at the time) when I was showing no signs of an outbreak. I hadn't had an outbreak in almost 2 years and I still spread it to him! Just because a person is taking their medication and isn't currently having an outbreak or shedding doesn't mean it's a guarantee they won't pass it. If a person with genital herpes has sex with someone else there is ALWAYS going to be a chance they can spread the virus. Nothing is 100% effective against ANY STD except abstinence. You need to tell ANY and ALL future sex partners you have this virus. It wouldn't be right, or fair to them, if they contracted this virus from you and you never told them about it. Source(s): Personal experience. I have had genital herpes for 6 years. You know the answer already; yes you have to tell them! Definitely tell your partner, everything comes out in the end - and you'll be hated more for lying about it than having the condition, besides it's just safer that way!! You have no right NOT to tell a new partner. You certainly can pass on the infection when you have no symptoms. Wouldn't you prefer that whoever gave it to you had told you first? I think it would be immoral to NOT tell a future partner. You can also think of it this way, if, when you tell a woman, she avoids you afterwards, at least you'll know it wasn't meant to be. Good luck to you. :) JMHO... I would be totally p*ssed if my potential partner didn't inform me about something such as this. Your partners should be able to make a sensible informed decision about whether or not they want to be intimate when there is the possibility of transmitting any STD. It is possible to contract herpes even if you're not having an "outbreak" at the time. As for as having children goes, consult your physician about the best possible treatment and plan on how to safely go about it without infecting your partner or quite possibly your child. I must add however, that I admire you for taking time to ask the question and for your willing use of condoms. |
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