Breaking up over infertility?

My fiance and I have tried to have a baby for about 2 years now. I was on my 2nd round of clomid and I got a positive ovulation around CD18 and took a pregancy test yesterday (CD 32) and it was negative but I still have no period. He is now to the point where he feels that each time I come on my period, it makes him so sad that he cant even think correctly or focus on his work. He also doesnt really speak to me since the negative pregnancy test AGAIN. This hurts me so bad even though he says nothing is wrong.I feel guilty although doctors have told me that according to tests, we should be able to conceive. I am soooo sad right now and I told him that I wanted him to be happy and I broke up him because I didnt want to feel the pressure that my situation was making him unhappy. I dont want to be selfish. Please help, I need advice about this from couples who may be experiencing the same type of problem.

That is such a hard situation to be in. Part of the problem is the pressure you feel to get pregnant. It took me and my fiance over a year this time to get pregnant. It was the hardest time of our relationship!! The doctors kept telling us everything should be fine...it was just the timing. Seriously everyone tells you just to stop trying and it'll happen. Well one month I was late for my period so I took a test and it was negative. So we were sad and just kind of waiting for my period so we could start again (i have irregular cycles). After another month of no period I took another test and i was pregnant. In that time in between when I wasn't worried about cycles and ovulation I got pregnant!! Seriously the best advice I can give is to try to take a month or two off from trying and just let it happen naturally!!Good Luck!!

first of all it is not your fault for anything and if he acts like a baby when you have your period then he is not ready for a baby you dont need the stress of taking care of yourself and a newborn and trying to please him!!!

Get back together w/ him...you will never have a baby together if you are not together! And also...STOP trying! My hubby and I tried for over 2 yrs and the first month we stopped trying, we got pregnant! We now have a beautiful 3 month old baby girl! Also you could try and get the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler! It's a great book and it's very informative! Good luck and LOTS of babydust to you! Hope I helped...

You're too stressed, so you're probably not going to conceive. He's the one being selfish, not supportive....and it's probably the reason that you're not getting pregnant.

my husband and i tried to conceive for almost a year... finally we tried ovulation strips and we succeeded. It did get so bad that we were arguing and fighting over it. And thats not the best especialy when your trying to prepare your body.. Did he get tested to see if hes the problem?? Or just you?? You guys could always go see a fertility clinic and ask and see if they can help... i know its hard.. but hang in there/..

Not to be rude, but if the drs say YOU should be able to concieve, has HE been checked? Could he have a low sperm count?

How does HE feel about breaking up? I think it is selfish to break up with him he it iws't want HE also wants...

Maybe you guys should take a break from TTC and just enjoy being a couple. Perhaps with some relaxation and not worrying about it, you will concieve.

This happened to some friends of mine. They tried for years to have a baby and almost divorced over it. Finally they decided to give up. Six months later they were pregnant.

Good Luck to both of you

getting pregnant is alot harder then you think. if you dont try so hard then it will happen. stress causes you to not conceive so just take it slow dont be in such a big hurry. and dont try so hard and it will happen and you shouldnt have broken up with him b/c of it because thats not the anwser to it just stop trying so hard it will come.

OK, have the doctors told you that being under stress can stop you from conceiving (you are trying so hard it is going to make you stressed out which is not helping the situation). what did he say to you about the break up? also your injecting clomid, clomid also changes your hormones and hun you can be acting alittle hastily ease up, have you 2 talked about adopting?most couples who adopt in your type of situation end up getting pregnant because the pressure is off!!! don't do something you will regret its not worth it!! GOOD LUCK

Honey, the stress and pressure may be the reason you guys are unable to conceive. Conception is natural and it will happen when the timing is right. The inability to conceiev should not keep you guys apart.

ok, i literally read this like an hour ago. and it makes sense to me. my husband and i have been trying for close to 4 years now. miscarried last year, and it has REALLY been tough this last year or so. but read this article and see if it helps. good luck!


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and did i mention that EVERYWHERE i go or look, EVERYONE seems to be pregnant or pushing stollers! AAaahhh!!! but don't give up. at least thats what i tell myself....

Infertility can be a test of a relationship. It doesn't sound like your relationship is weathering this test very well.

If this is the way he behaves when life doesn't turn out as he wants it to, then you have to start thinking about whether or not you really want to committ yourself to this man. You're not currently married- so he doesn't really have any committement to you. If you have his child, you will be stuck to him for at least the next 18 years.

If he loves you and wants to be with you, he's going to have to learn to work on this with you, and not act like it's something that's only happening to him.

Consider putting this off until you are married. Yes, it's old fashioned, but you'll be better off if you focus on yourself and your relationship first- and when you have both made a formal committment to each other, focus on starting your family.

Read this, you might find it enlightening:
http://www.slate.com/id/2185944/

I know how you feel. My fiance was married 10 yrs before we got together and they never conceived. Now, we've been ttc for 10 months. I truly believe that he has fertility issues. i've been to the doctor and I was told i'm fine. I love him dearly but I don't think i will leave him over this. Has you fiance ever been checked out to see if he has low sperm count? Don't blame yourself. Trust in God............he'll work it out for you.

Has he had an fertility work up? I mean, how do you know for a fact it is you?

Why are you trying to conceive before your even married?

Anyway, my husband and I went through the same thing. He ended up benig infertile. We went through surgeries, tests, etc etc. It was a nightmare. Then we tried adoption and that took another 2 years. All in all we tried for 4 years. Finally we adopted a year and a half ago. Don't feel bad. But I don't think you should break up with him. I think you guys should put all the baby stuff aside, get married, have a great honeymoon (where lots of babies are usually made by the way), get everything settled and then start trying again. Once you stop trying so hard it will happen.