Infertility and pregnant friends?

My self and my best friend are both expecting and we have another firend who wont be able to have children. We've allbeen best friends and done everthing together since we were young but we're not sure how to deal with her now.

he just unsucessfully finished a 3rd course of ivf and has officially given up on that. She cant adopt for various reasons and surrogacy laws are complicated where im from and its very likely that she will never have a child.

Its tough because myself and my friend dont want to leave her out of all our abay excitement and planning and everything that goes with being preganant because she feels left out but when we include her she feels like we're showing her what she'll never have.

It seems no matter what we do its wrong.

We're really not sure what to do. Ive tryed asking her but she says she doesnt know.

My friend suggested we leave her alone while we'r preganat but i feel like taht would be abandonong her when she needs friends.

Does anyone have any advise?

well, i am that friend that could not conceeive. every infertile women has their issues. mine is endometriosis and i would have difficulty conceiving. i went through 6 years of fertility and nothing they told me ivf was my best option b/c of my condition. so after years trying i gave up and guess what i am pregnant. so it may still happen for her. but there is nothing you can really say or do. deep down she is probably feeling angry and joy at the same time. she is the only one who can overcome her feelings. i was always happy for those who became pregnant on the outside, but the minute i was at home i broke down n front of my hubby. i would not include her in all the baby stuff unless she invites herself. don't offer any info about your pregnancy unless she asks. be her friend as always and don't ignore her through your pregnancy b/c then she will pobably be upset b/c she will feel you are protecting her by not trying to upset her on the situation. i know for me once i saw the baby i felt that i was childish for feeling that way but we can't always control our emotions. she has to come to terms that she may bever have children and that is hard thing to do. trust me. me and hubby had a heart to heart about it. i obviously had the problem and felt terrible that i could not give my hubby a child, but he said one thing to me that changed everything. he told me that he married me b/c he loves me for me and he did not marry me for children. he said if it was just me and him he was fine with that. and that is what i needed to move on and i did. i also understnad her not wanting to try other options. she has been through so much and if something else were to not go the way she planned then it would be even more heartbreaking. well, i could contnue to write a novel but remember to be her friend no matter what and you will do what is right. and if not she may pull away but she will be back. she has alot of emotions to sort through right now.

I completely understand, but leaving her alone would probably be a big mistake, you don't want this to ruin the friendship. My sister-in-law has been trying for years and then my husband and I find out we are expecting a surprise baby. When I'm around her I usually won't bring up or talk about my pregnancy unless she mentions or asks first. Give her time to digest the news awhile and just try to have fun without making everything about babies. (Do make sure to have "baby talk time" when you need it otherwise you might burst or start to feel resentment) Hope I helped and good luck!

thats such a tough situation but honestly we cant go beyond the measures God has given us .just do as she requests but on the other hand pray for her because God will always make a way where there seems to be no way . if moses was told by God to strike a stone to get water and it happened ,its also possible for that same God to strike her womb hence a baby .she should never give up

I totally understand it's not easy.I have 2 best friends and one of them and i have 4 children.Our last born in the same year, only a few months apart.My other friend has been trying for a baby for a couple of years now but that does not stop me or my other friend having something to do with her.I know it's not easy trying to decide what to do but you're right when you say 'that she needs you 'and you don't want to abandon her.She will think you are deliberately ignoring her because she doesn't have children...Be honest and hopefully maybe she will open up to you both in the near future.friends are there for good and bad, remember.Good luck.