He dumped his ex because she has PCOS, I haven't told him I have the same infertility condition...?

We've been e-pals for a yr. Just recently we've turned into something more. He calls all of the time and we talk for hours. I'm American and he's on a student visa from India. We're both Christian, but he's non-practicing.

His ex girlfriend has PCOS. He told me he wanted to marry her, but he wants kids and he doesn't believe in divorce. They got back together because he said they could work through it, but she dumped him.

I didn't admit to having the same condition. I have a friend that also has it. She doesn't have but maybe one or two periods a yr and they last 4 months at a time. I have a period on average every 33 days. I'm not sure if I ovulate, but do track my cycles and was seeing an endocrinologist, but because I'm not seeking to get pregnant I wasn't on fertility drugs.

Should I admit that I might not be able to get pregnant on my own-- he wants 3 kids! Or should I keep my mouth shut and just "suddenly" discover any fertility issues when the time comes up?

having PCOS doesnt mean you cant get pregnant on your own my mother had it and there are three of us she was fertile mer tel is what my grandma calls her I have PCOS and I have gotten pregnant without fertility treatments I didnt carry all the way through I was too stressed so really PCOS doesnt have a huge impact on your fertility, Besides he sounds a bit shallow if he dumped her for a condition she couldnt help I say you can do a whole lot better with a guy you can be honest with and wont dump you for having PCOS I hope this helps!

If you want to start this relationship honestly i think you should tell him. It seems like kids are very important to him and I don't think it will be fair to him to start a relationship knowing you have fertility issues.
With fertility drugs you may be able to get pregnant but, i think this is something he needs to know before things get to deep.

you should tell him about it, because do you really wanna build a relationship and have the same thing happen to you?


sometimes my periods came farther than 33 days apart....and im 27 weeks pregnant, wasnt even trying to get prengant. so im sure theres hope for you.

Why would you want to be with someone who clearly just wants a baby machine. They don't care about the actual relationship - that's why the other girl wised up and left him. With PCOS you may or may not have fertility problems.

If he's going to dump you for a medical condition, far better that you know that now before you're even more invested in the relationship. Tell him.

you should tell him.

If you get married then he finds out you decieved him on that, it is grounds for an anullment of the marriage.(sorry - infertility. If you knew and decieved him.)_

Lying gets you no where. You should tell him the truth.

Tell him the truth. Diet and exercise will help alot!!

you should be honest with him but if that's how he is, he's not such a prize.

go get a test done to see if you are ovulating. if you are not, see if you can start taking fertility drugs. if neither of those are an option, then you need to be honest with him, period. what if he had an std, would you like to "suddenly" discover what he's known all along? you are doing a terrible disservice to this man who you have come to call a friend, who has been up front about wanting kids and who could start looking for someone who is able to have kids. find a man who doesnt mind not having kids.

He is ignorant. Plenty of women conceive children despite having PCOS (myself included).

You should get yourself treated in any case, because your condition is putting you at risk for other complications. I suggest following the diet outlined in the book, "The Insulin Resistence Diet." Often this diet can resolve the infertility altogether.

Depends on how close you two really are..

I mean .. if he is just a friend , you having PCOS is none of his business.. so just don't tell him :)

if you are interested in being together in future you can casually tell him about your health issue ... like ask not to call a day tell him that you have a doctor's appointment for this.. and see how he responds..

Either way there is nothing to lose!

but , If you are in a relationship, you better tell him now... as he has been open about what his feeling about having kids are.

All the best!