Sister-in-Law claiming infertility?

My sister in law is claiming that all women in her family become infertile at the age of 30. I think that she says that its because of early menopause but she is saying this is with all females of her family and its always at the age of 30. Is this possible? She has about 5 to 6 years to go before 30 but now she is having trouble conceiving. They are going the invitro road since she has something wrong with her ovaries, its something that starts with poly. Can that prevent someone from conceiving as well? Just curious since I have my suspicions about her. She gets very envious of me who had a baby and she doesn't know yet that I'm pregnant again. The family is waiting for the right time to tell her. She makes the whole family sick with her behaivor and her actions as she is so desperate for a baby. She even asked my husband for 2,000 dollars for her surgery. Any clue to what is wrong with her?

I do feel bad for her and understand to a point but she gets so envious even when my husband and I hold hands. This is just how she is.

Sounds like she has PCOS. It can make conceiving a child very difficult depending on the severity. I suppose it is possible that all the females in her family become infertile but that seems unlikely. Believe me, if she is going the in vitro route then she is having trouble conceiving. Please try to have sympathy for your Sister in Law's situation. There is nothing harder than trying to have a baby and everyone else around you seems to be popping them out left and right. Try to put yourself in her shoes.

OK, there's no way to know if you're going to become infertile at age 30. That doesn't make any sense. Maybe there is a genetic factor that all the relatives have but there's no way to know that it will start at age 30. She probably has polycystic ovary syndrome, which could have some effect on fertility and the ability to carry a baby to term. If she really is infertile, please let her be. It is absolutely heartbreaking to find out that you can't have a child and the jealousy is completely understandable.

It's absolutely possible to have a condition that causes infertility by the age of 30 (if you have any doubt, check out other TTC questions and you will see lots of women in their 20s asking about Clomid, IUI, IVF, etc.) I agree with the other answerers that she may have PCOS. She may also have severe endometriosis. I had it so bad that it destroyed one of my ovaries.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I would just ask that you please have a little compassion for her; she's heartbroken right now, and yes, desperate.

what's wrong with her is that she's desperate for a baby. i know it's hard for you to understand when you aren't having the difficulty conceiving she is but try and imagine yourself in her place. if you desperately wanted a child and couldn't have one.

as far as being infertile after 30, i don't know. i don't know her family but seeing as how something is wrong with her ovaries and she isn't even 30 she may be right. there could be a genetic disorder.

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome which could very well cause infertility. I dont agree with her asking your husband for money, she should have consulted the both of you. She might have a fertility issue, as for all the women in her family, I am not sure if this is possible or not, but I have never heard of it.

It's polycystic ovaries. It's when you get huge cysts on your ovaries over and over. It makes it hard, and sometimes all together impossible to conceive.

Please be patient with her. Infertility is one of the most heartbreaking issues a woman has to deal with. Women are born to give life & when this doesn't happen some women feel like failures. It makes the feeling 100 times worse when people around them get pregnant so easily. Infertility makes becomming pregnant an obsession. I'm not going to ask you to understand because you can't, but you can be patient with her. It sounds like PCOS - that makes it difficult to concieve, but not impossible. About the menopause at 30? I've never heard of that...although her genetics caould cause earlier than "normal" menopause. Women in my family drop more thn one egg at ovulation ..hence the 3 sets of twins (all natural)! Also they seem to go thru menopause in their early 40's. I hope this helps you & I wish your sister in law loads of luck!!!

She has PCOS, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrom. It does cause infertility in a lot of woman. Some women can conceive with only a little intervention and others need to go all the way to IVF. Sounds like they've done everything else and IVF is there last chance. Please be patient with her. I know it can be annoying but for women with infertility it tends to take over their lives and can be all they talk or think about. It sounds like she's having problems paying for the IVF which is expensive and not covered by insurance.

As for the menopause. It's possible that some women have early menopause. However it's usually rare. She is either worried that it will happen to her as she already has fertility issues or she has been told by a dr tht she is at risk for it. Either way, she most likely isn't saying it to be malicious in any way.

I know it's hard to be sympathetic when its something she obsesses about. It's hard to understand unless you've been there yourself. Try to be a bit more compasionate.

If she needs 2000.00 for a surgery, she's having problems and clearly isn't making it up. I'm not sure about infertility running in the family but I do know that my mother is 1 of 10 children and only 2 of the 5 females were able to have children. I know for sure that 2 of the other women could not conceive..so I dunno.

Try to have some empathy for her....you cannot imagine how it feels for a woman who so desperately wants to be a mother and is having problems. She is probably feeling like something is wrong with her and she's 'inadequate', even 'less' of a woman. No, it's not right to feel that way but sometimes that is how women feel. It's very hard when people are having babies all around you and you have nothing to celebrate. My DH and I have been ttc for over 6 months now....nothing....5 of 5 of my girlfriends, got pregnant on the 1st time. Trust me....it's hard sometimes.

Good luck to you and your family.