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What, if anything, can I do about my wife's obesity? |
I have been married 12 years and have 3 thriving kids. Her weight: -My wife was a little overweight when we got married, but was working on losing weight. -Year after year, she has gotten fatter. -She has tried every diet known to man, with very little self discipline. -There are few forms of exercise she finds acceptable, and she has decided she is too busy for any of them. Our attitudes: -She says her fatness gives her a poor self image -I find her obesity offensive and revolting -If I ask her how the weight loss is going, it is always my fault that she isn't losing weight, which is utter nonsense -I exercise and eat healthy -I feel like if she cared about me, she could have a thimbleful of my self discipline and take care of the matter -She refuses to get help: doctor or dietician or fitness trainer -She is generally very competant The Catch: -I don't want to leave because I don't want my kids to have to go thru a divorce, and we are are still civil You can't do anything to motivate her to change....it has to come from within her. She's using excuses and placing blame on you for her failed attempts at losing weight...she's staying in denial and refusing to take responsibility for her own actions....and not willing to face the truth. I don't think you should take it personal or think that she doesn't care about you...it's not about you...it's about her. She feels badly toward herself, has low self-esteem and is probably depressed, which makes it very hard to muster up the courage to make positive changes. I don't know what to tell you...except that you can't change her, and from what your saying...she doesn't want to. Hopefully one day she will start loving herself which will bring about good changes. Source(s): personal experience Yeah dont leave your wife because she's not the weight you'd like. Just convince her that it's unhealthy to be overweight. It really isn't. Let her know about all the health risks she is looking at facing if she does not try to lose weight. You should be concerned and you are a good husband for caring. If you are too shallow to love her for who she is, then you should leave. its unfair to her and the kids to stick around. It will be rough on the kids, but not as rough as when they get older and figure out thier family was a lie. though i don't understand why you would stop loveing her because of her weight. thats pretty low. Hi,are ur wife healthy?Fit and strong?If yes,let it be fat.look at the beautiful of it,encourage her to do exercises,diet and don't push her,just ensure she is healthy. get her stomach stapled . and thank for staying for the kids you are a good man. Why don't you try exercising with her? Or say it's something you guys can do together? Or ban certain foods from the house...and throw them away. I feel you though. My boyfriend smokes A LOT of cigarettes. I yelled at him to quit, but I've since tired of it because he likes it. He's not even addicted, but he enjoys it. I have given up telling him to quit, but I hope he comes to his senses some day. |
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