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I haven't had a girlfriend in two years, I have schizophrenia since June 2005? |
Everytime I do try to go out with girl, It turns into a total nightmare. When I do get to know girls, I get the biggest fear of not being accepted. Last year I went out with a girl for about two weeks, which I doubt it even counts. During that time I ended up finding out that her cousin went off and told her whole family about my illness. Yes i told her cousin, big mistake huh. Well turns out that her Dad thinks I'm a psycho, and tries to convince the girl that I go out with to leave me. My fear is being accepted, which keeps me from going out with girls. So it really sucks cause now everytime I get a chance to go out with a girl, I end up withdrawing at the last minute. I need help if anybody can give me advise, and please don't say meds cause they don't work. I'm 23 yearsold, I got out of college because of it. I was diagnosed in June 2005, I swear that this is what I have Sometimes is just to real, I get chest pains cause my heart beats so dam fast 3 minutes ago If my diagnoses is fake, explain to me why I hear voices when I'm in my room by myself. Why I hear voices at work, when I eat, shower, drive. stay on your meds. follow doctors orders. Don't worry about girls right make sure the voices go away first. You don't need to date right now. It could make matters worse. Work on getting through therapy and feeling comfortable with yourself before dating. Maybe you should be in a hospital. Or maybe you need to get a second opinion. You should smoke some weed to calm your nerves, for real. I know how you feel. While I don't have you're illness I know what it's like to feel like people don't accept you when you have a mental illness. I have social phobia and depression. I'm 29 years old and I was 25 when I first had a girlfriend. You said the meds don't work? What were you on before? Because maybe the ones they gave you weren't for you. Tell your therapist that you want to try something else. If that doesn't work I'd suggest you try to find a support group and also meditation could help you a lot too. To the people who say you're a psycho, f them! They are shallow and don't understand what it's like to have what you have. I;m sure that you will find a girl who will accept you just the way you are. It's just that people are sometimes close-minded and assume that just because you have schizophrenia you must be crazy or violent or something. Don't give up my friend and I wish you the best! First of all, I wouldn't worry about dating right now. Yes you may have schizophrenia, but there are different levels of severity, and some things can be controlled. What you have to remember is that no one is exactly the same as everyone else. And not everyone likes the same things as everyone else. So not everyone is going to accept you. That's just a truth you're going to have to learn how to deal with. You should learn how to respect yourself, love the person that you are, and accept the person that you are (faults and all) before you can ask other people to accept you. One thing that has made me strong over the years is to just not care what anyone else thinks. I think I am a wonderful person, and that's all that matters. What other people think doesn't matter. I'm the one that has to live with myself, not those other people so what do I care what they think. Tell yourself that every day. You may also think about therapy once or twice a week. You can request a therapist not to recommend medication. Asking for advise is a great first step because it means you are aware of your illness and you're not trying to deny it. Good Luck. It sounds like if you were on medications that you were not on the right medication for your illness. Not every pill works for everyone. Check with your therapist to get a system going that is going to help you and work for you .. it took me awhile to get the right medicine and a therapist I felt comfortable with to help start feeling better. Before a relationship will work for you, it will be a good idea for you to feel more confidence within yourself. Take the time to get to know the person and build a friendship with them. Someone who really cares about you and gets to know you will not just RUN. Make sure that you are not missing drugs and alcohol with any type of medications and even when you start to feel better you need to continue to take them and not just stop without a doctors help. I know this is very frustrating but there are things you can do about it. The most important thing is NOT give up! Seek help and dont stop trying no matter how hard it is. It is better to go to your local mental health to seek a counselor and get therapy then a regular family doctor. good luck! The withdrawals from these meds that don't work can often immitate the symptoms the meds were supposed to treat in a chronic or lifelong form of treatment that offers no hope for recovery other than within the placebo range. The withdrawals from and the damage caused by the pills can take years to recover from which is pretty difficult on a person that is already ill. Worry about yourself and look after yourself solve your problems then worry about the withdrawal symptoms that are causing your schizophrenia, be usefull to yourself, improve your own life while you have no girlfriend so that you may have something to offer that makes you have greater value than your illness. Your probably just having a sane reaction to an insane world. Ob1 |
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