How do I reassure my partner that I will not leave him for a younger man as he has sexual dysfunction problems

I am 37 and he is 55 [a very young 55 who certainly does not look his age!!] and the last few times we have made love he could not maintain his erection. This was a problem for him before he ever met me and he used Viagra to help him. He stopped using Viagra last month and was fine for a while, but is losing his erections again. I could care less really as he is a great lover in every respect but he keeps saying that he is an old man and I should seek out a younger man to satisfy me. Never once have I said that I want a younger man, and I see age as inconsequential.

I spend a long time telling him it really is not a problem for me because he is great at oral sex. He wants to take Viagra again but that does not stop him worrying about the fact that he cannot sustain an erection without it. How else can I reassure him that it is not an issue for me?

A SMALL AMOUNT OF COCAINE WILL HELP MAINTAIN THINGS... VERY SMALL AMOUNT... NOT ENOUGH TO CAUSE AN ADDICTION...

tell him you have an older guy fetish, and buy a vibrator for him to use on you. some guys really cant believe women can get off without a big one shoved up inside them. The problem isnt your to solve, its in his head and he needs help for it. He wouldnt have been given viagra by the doctor without some form of counselling surely? He needs to get some counselling.

Sit down and have a chat about it.

Im in a relationship with a woman who is 18 years older than me and we have been married for nearly 3 years and been together for almost 7 years. She is worried I might want someone my own age but I dont. I think the best way is trusting each other and sticking side by side.

I find it helpful to be extraaa extraa lovie.
and you probably shouldn't say that its okay becuase cause he gives amazing head. you should tell him that he means more to you then just sex. tell him all the other qualities that attract you to him.

it should work like a charm, or at least it does with my boyfriend.

All you can really do is sit down and talk to him, do whatever you can to make sure he feels special to you.

He could try Golden Root instead of Viagra too...it is 100% natural and works very well.

print out the question and answers on this page, it should help a lot, seems to me you care a hell of a lot for him, surely he must believe you, I did after reading your question.

You can't assure him - being able to acheive & maintain an erection is a BIG part of a man's idenity and self confidence. You say this is not a problem for you but can you really go on for years without sex? Not to mention how bad your partner feels about himself. Why doesn't he want to go back on Viagra - there shoulf be no shame in that. I would think that a medically induced erection would be better than no erection. Maybe he is using this as an excuse (not using Viagra) as a way to avoid intimacy with you. Beleive me - you need to get this resolved or your relationship will suffer.

Unfortunately he has to be okay with it and until he is, your words won't make him feel much better. I would suggest to him to read some books that touch on this topic. He needs to see that he is not alone and that relationships can work with a partner that has ED. If oral is good enough for you the majority of the time, then encourage that. It might take some of the pressure off of him to perform intercourse. It probably wouldn't hurt if you got some literature as well. I'm sure there are some ways you can help him.

i think that you are doing the best that you can. you seem to be giving him a good sense of comfort, but he has doubts about himself. that you can do nothing about, because men are very strong minded, and even stronger because we are talking about his pecker here! so i say that if you are truly satisfied then please him like he pleases you, ansd things will work out fine. make him feel the same way that he makes you feel! drop it like its hot, and throw it back, and lick him like a lollipop!!! LOL. he'll be just fine.