What can i do with my mom? She smokes too much and i am afraid for her.?

Hi my name is Rade. My mom is 49 and started smoking with my step dad about seven years ago. Now she has become a regular smoker and smokes 2 to 3 packs a day. She got divorced for the second time and she is very upset. She is also depressed. She used to look so pretty and goodlooking with her long hair. In four years she has changed very much. She has become very skinny, and is looking old. I know it's all because of her addiction to cigarettes. I wish she would stop smoking and become normal again.
My house was smoke free until she developed that dirty habit. My room, house, clothes, everything stinks. I don't know what to do. I want my mom back.

Ok well here's a tactic but is also the truth. Because she is your mother she obviously cares about you a lot so approach her addiction from another angle. Say that you are a passive smoker because wehn she smokes you also inhale her smoke in the air and when she smokes it damages your lungs as well. So it's not just her life and well being that is at stake but also yours. Because your mother loves you this should make her at least assess her decision to continue smoking.

Good luck hun! <3

oh that's really sad. maybe this isn't the best place to ask for advice. that must've been hard to say. have you tried talking to your mom. have you asked your friends for advice? maybe even going to a trusted adult or a teacher will help. tell that person about your worries and they should help. as far as this, all i can say is encourage your mom to stop, and tell her that it's ok, her marriage just didn't work, and that happens to many people. there will be someone else out there for her.

First of all Rade, take into consideration that your mother has probably put up with a lot through out the years with the divorces and all, but the best solution is (it may sound cheesy and dumb but it might work) sit her down and explain how you feel tell her the many risk of smoking and explain her options tell her that your will stand by her side through whatever treatment she decides to take. secondly be there for her support her and please talk to her. i hope my advice was helpful if you have anymore questions feel free to email me at gcmyf2000@yahoo.com.
Dr. Vasquez

Try to get her some medical advise for the depression. As for the smoking she has to be willing to give it up. I smoked for many years ,and I can proudly say I am smoke-free 2 years now !! I know what you mean about the smell it does stink there are some things in my home that still have the smell . Your mother really needs to talk to someone that is the only way for her to over come what she is going through..

That's so sad! I hate it when good people just pick up a bad habit like that! You can help and get your mom back by just telling her how you feel. Go up to her and tell her smoking stinks. Be direct and specific on what you miss and why. If she won't listen, flush her cigarettes down the toilet! Also, do some research on smoking to give her a better understanding of how bad it is! Show her pictures of what she looked like 4 years ago, maybe she'll realize what smoking is doing to her health. Keep pressuring her about how you feel and do anything in your power to send a message that you miss your mom! Be confident and show your mom that you care. Good luck! ; )