Mom getting stress to much now what to do?

my adult children are taking their turns on me what to do now.I have one in rehab for drinking one that lives at home and should be out because he is old and one that always telling me what to do. tonight or should i say this morning my 2 oldest kid came in after a date about 5 in the morning i looked at him and said now your date takes your clothes off because he came in with no shirt and he said f;;;;; you mom . then my daughter tells to to go to bed she can't sleep. and just this morning my rehab son tells me never to phone him and don't bug imam now sick everyday what to do now lost in space

Oh goody! I love these questions. I raised 16 foster children, 4 brothers and 1 sister, and 2 kids of my own... all of which are over 20 now.

Okay listen up because you are so going to love this answer.
Do this with no yelling !
The next time they are all gone get some of your friends and some large trash bags. Take everything out of their rooms that is all the stuff they love. Leave only bare necessity living. I even took towels and just left wash clothes for them to dry off with. Changed to cheap soap and shampoo (do not spend a lot of money) . No make up, no hair spray, no deoderant, No special shoes or jewlery, no cell phones.. when all the snack foods run out then dont buy anymore. Take the doors off their rooms. No puffy pillows on their beds , no bikes, no computer games, hand held games, no car keys, no internet, no tv. Do not let them in the house after whatever time you sit as a curfew. They will say they can still do what they want... you say fine and then take the basics away . Take all their items to a storage unit or to a friends garage... anyone will help you more than likely.



DO NOT give them anything back until they start to act like humans for at least a month. They are old enough to go a month after treating you so badly. YOU CAN DO IT!



Then and this is an important part... take care of yourself. You are basically stressed the heck out and your body is paying for it. Get some good minerals and vitamins into your system and go for walks or go work out on aregular basis until your body learns how to cope with this stress. Dont pick up the phone and leave the house if the kids start to gang up on you. Keep all your important things in the trunk of your car or at a friends house until they become normal human beings or move the heck out. Keep your wits about you because they will try and break you down.

EVERY ONE of my kids respects me and they honor me by saying I was one tough mom but at least they all went to college and have great lives now. I see them being strict but loving with their kids now and they laugh and say they learned from the best so dont even try it. They learned respect and how to deal with real life pretty quickly when they acted up and learned that living with me is a priviledge not an absolute. You are suffering from LBST now.... low bull shi,t tolerance!

I address the topic of stress in section 42 of my website, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris View page i first.

Alcohol: see section 52: although you are understandably concerned, he is going through a very difficult time right now: ask one of his siblings, or friends to get him to call you when he is feeling better.

Insomnia: see section 3, page O first.

I wish I knew. But sometimes it helps to know that you are not alone.