How come it says in the quron that a husband may force sex on his wife even if she is not willing?
And why can muslim men have more than one wife? Isnt one enough? How come women can't have more than one husband? double standard!
And how come beautiful arab women must cover themselves up because horney men can't keep their hormones controlled?? Muslims, please explain The Qu'ran no where says that a husband can force sexual intercourse with the wife.
Muslim men can have more than one wife because back in Mohammed's day, wars left women and children w/o husbands and fathers to raise them. Taking more than one wife was a way to help shelter those women and children because in ancient times, women didn't have any rights and couldn't really do much on their own. This is not a double standard. It was a way to help the widows and the children who lost their father in war. Only 1% of the Muslim population practices pologamy. Women can not have more than one husband because a women can only get pregnant once every 9 months, and how would she know who the father is? It's not very practical.
Arab women are beautiful...but this isn't just Islam that calls for women to be covered. Orthodox Jewish women do it. Nuns in Catholic churches do it. It says in the Bible women should cover! Look in 1 Corinthians. Furthermore, this 'covering' doesn't demote them to second class. The covering for women helps men see past her physical beauty {the women body is very beautiful, you can agree} and actually respect her for her mind! Many men can agree that if they're talking to a women that has her cleavage all hanging out, it's very hard to keep their gaze upwards at her face and actually comprehend what she is saying instead of fantasizing about her naked. The covering helps this by giving women an identity and a voice to be heard and not just looked at for physical satisfaction.
Look at the Virgin Mary in the church paintings. She ALWAYS has a head cover.
You questioned, I answered. Thank you!
Nemesis: Actually in the Bible, it calls for a rapist to marry the girl he raped. Don't get me wrong, it says many good things in the Bible about women and the treatment of...but Kind David has three wives and even committed adultery! Please read the Bible more carefully before making assumptions. Also, in the Qu'ran a chapter is named after the Virgin Mary so women are highly regarded. The wives of the Prophets were highly educated, respectable scholars of Islam and many people, including men, came to them for advice. At least Islam has restrictions to 4 wives. King Solomon in the Bible had 700 wives! and 300 concubines! Read it! It's true. because it is a sexist, hateful religion they are gluttons for punishment I guess. After living with a woman for 4 years.....I couldn't image nor would I wish multiple spouses on anyone.
Although if I had 4-5 wives, I guess violence against them would cross my mind more than once....that was a joke. Keep in mind, for a 7th century arab, that was a big step up.....
....that being said, why do people still follow 7th century arabs? Probably for the same reason the Bible condones violence and disrespect to women. And homosexuals. And... hm I wonder if you will get any answers?
Bullies usually don't like truth. this is what the bible says about that.
Men May have Sex with their Wives as Long as both party's (Husband and Wife)agree upon it. If the Wife does not agree then the man must wait until she does.
And the Bible is not sexist towards Women because i do recall their is a Woman that saved the Jews from destruction named esther, they gave that Woman credit. And the bible also says to treat Women without harshness. Men have to control themselves as well and are condemned.
The Quran does Not say that, it is not okay to force your wife
To me this shows how excellent the woman is when she can be fulfilled by one man. And how empty the man is because he needs more the one woman.
According to sacred law a Muslim man can marry a women who is a Christian or Jew and or sabeans (believers in the Prophet Yahya - there are some of these in Iraq).
A Muslim woman can only marry a Muslim man. Why? This seems like its wrong doesn't it? Please let me explain. A Muslim man has to respect the religion of his non-Muslim wife, he believes in her Prophet, Moses, Jesus and Yahya (upon them all peace).
He respects her book and he has to by sacred law to pay for her daily needs: food, housing etc. A non-Muslim man on other hand doesn't believe in her Prophet or religion. So he could cause her to loss in her religious action.
For example he might prevent her fasting because he doesn't like it or he might stop her praying. He may also refuse to pay for any of her daily needs, he not obliged to do this.So the reason here is, that the non-Muslim man cannot fulfill her rights either worldly or religiously. If he did then he would be Muslim. This is in order to protect the woman from harm.
Does this make sense, please ask me to clarify if you do not understand.
This is a legal ruling regarding your question.
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
Allah Most High tells us that,
鈥淭hey are garments for you and you are garments for them.鈥?
[Qur鈥檃n, 2.187]
It is the nature of garments that they bring comfort, dignity, and keep one from indecency and harm. This is how each spouse acts, emotionally, physically, and spiritually for the other.
Part of this is that each spouse is religiously expected to fulfill the sexual needs of the other, such that their desires are brought into check, and they are able to stay away from the haram, both major (such as fornication) and lesser (such as looking at the unlawful, and thinking of the unlawful).
Sexual relations are vital in marriage. One of the scholars said, 鈥淐ouples happy in bed are happy in their marriage.鈥?One of the scholars in Syria said, 鈥淭he scholars today generally agree that one of the primary reasons for failed marriages is failed sexual lives.鈥?Western studies confirm this.
This is why the Shariah has made it obligatory for both spouses to fulfill the sexual needs of their spouse in marriage. This is understood, the scholars say, from the abovementioned Qur鈥檃nic verse.
Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him) says,
鈥淎mong the rulings of marriage is that each spouse is allowed to derive sexual pleasure from the other.鈥?[ Radd al-Muhtar, 3.4]
However, there is a legal difference between the husband and wife鈥檚 right to sex: the husband can demand sex, and the wife is obliged to agree unless there is a genuine physical or Shariah preventative. Even if she disagrees, he has the legal right to insist that she comply. While it is obligatory for the husband to fulfill his wife鈥檚 sexual needs, she cannot demand that he have sex with her if he does not want to.
Shaykh Adib Kallas often reminded that, 鈥淭he rules of the Wise are never bereft of wisdom.鈥?This right of the husband can often prevent greater harm, such the 鈥榮exual politics鈥?that spoil many otherwise successful marriages. This often leads as the husband fulfilling his sexual desires unlawfully (such as the growing phenomenon of Muslim husbands who resort to masturbation, because of sexual unfulfillment within marriage), frustrations, dispute, and, ultimately, miserable marriages.
Getting One鈥檚 Rights in a Right Way
The husband is expected to exercise even this right within the Qur鈥檃nic paradigm of love and mercy.
It is in this context we must understand that the words of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) that, 鈥淚f a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses, and then he sleeps angry, the angels shall curse her until he awakens.鈥?[an unquestionably authentic hadith, related by both Bukhari and Muslims, as well as numerous others]
This is not a call to sexual abuse; rather, it is a call to happy marriages where each spouse rushes to fulfill the rights and desires of the other.
This is the exception, too: scholars explain that particular rulings must be understood in the context of general rulings, for affirming one matter does not entail negating another.
Given this, such 鈥榬ights鈥?must be understood within the clear context of the Qur鈥檃nic command to 鈥渓ive together in excellence,鈥?and the words of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) that,
鈥淭he most perfect of believers are those most perfect of character; and the best of you are the best of you to your spouses.鈥?[Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban]
鈥淭he best of you are the best to their wives, and I am the best of you with my wives.鈥?[Ibn Hibban]
030.021 And of His signs is this: He created for you spouses from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo! herein indeed are portents for folk who reflect.
And Allah alone gives success Wolfechu-prepare to be proven wrong.
Ephesians 5:25
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"
1 Peter 3:7
"Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers."
Ephesians 5:28
"In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself."
1 Corinthians 6:8-10 (New International Version)
8 "Instead, you yourselves cheat and do wrong, and you do this to your brothers.
9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God."
Don't profess to be an expert on a book you have obviously never read. God neither condones abusive husbands nor homosexuality. Study before you speak. well reading between the lines of the word
Islam shows: I is larri
and as thats' pronounced like Larri
and perhaps is based on the fact the OT says
God is forever known as "I AM"
thus looking within the words you see:
I AM=I AIVI (sealed together)
and condidering IVI=IIII I
I AM=I AIVI (sealed together)=I AIIII I (sealed together)
looking at it a different way:
I AM=i am
so from that we can deduce
larri (cut & sealed together)=i am
so perhaps the OT bible describes God as:
larri (cut & sealed together) that is A IIII I (sealed together)
it's kind of funny cause an italian who would understand the IVI part, would pronounce My name of Larry as larri, and I AM a IIII I (sealed together)
and being bred in north america, i personally don't beleive in arranged marriages, and more then one wife. and if a wife doesn't want to take care of her husbands sexual needs, she shouldn't have gotten married to him. As for covering up beautiful arab woman, it's cause ugly arab men worry, nice looking north american men will steal them away.
and forcing people to do anything is kind of wrong.
so even though Islam will accuse Me of perverting Islam, with My observations about I AM, i gotta thing perhaps people pervert the message within Islam, in order to control people, despite what larri thinks or does. As for the religious view of Islam, religion is about helping widows and orphans. not God-king worship. That is perverting religion. religons purpose was to comfort the relatives of the deceased, not to make I AM worshipped.
so as a larri (cut & sealed together) with a IIII I (sealed together), i do not condone violence or disrespect at all.
and watching a movie called "partition" gotta say perhaps the family that didn't want to let the muslim woman return to her sikk husband, should have read the bible part that says the child grows up and becomes or starts her own family. meaning you can't control or rule over your children forever. kudos to the mother of the muslim woman, who let her return to her husband.
but i wander, so what i can't really understand is why a woman wouldn't want to have sex with her husband as much as possible? isn't it fun? See BronzeBeauty's answers above, they're good answers.
And, female circumcision is not allowed or required in Islam (only male is). Sadly, this still occurs because it is retained in some cultures (like Egypt and some other African countries) from pre-Islamic times. |
